No matter how hard you try to please your parents,it's never enough yet your older sister who never phones,never visits has their undying devotion.
Why is this?
Even one word of appreciation or love would go a long way towards making me feel wanted.
Why do they tell me that they love her more than they love me.
Isn't that the cruelest thing to say to any child of yours?
2006-10-24 07:23:23 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hi Sweety, I KNOW THAT YOU LOOK AT THIS IN A WAY THAT MAKES YOU FEEL BAD, BUT YOU CAN LOOK AT IT DIFFERENTLY, THERE FIRST MISTAKE IS THINKING YOU NEED TO HEAR THESE WORDS. THEY DON'T KNOW ANY BETTER, HAVE YOU EVER HEARD THE SAYING THE SQUEAKY WHEEL GETS THE GREASE. YOU ARE THE THE WHEEL THEY ARE THE GREASE, THEY THINK THEY CAN KEEP YOU UNDER CONTROL BY WHAT THEY ARE SAYING. IT WOULD BE THE SAME IF YOUR SISTER WAS THERE, THIS HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU, HAS EVERY THING TO DO WITH THEM . THEY CAN NOT GIVE YOU ANYTHING THAT THEY DO NOT HAVE, IF THEY DO NOT HAVE LOVE IN THEIR MINDS THAY CAN NOT GIVE YOU LOVE, IF THEY DO NOT HAVE COMPASSION OR IF THEY DO NOT HAVE UNDERSTANDING OR ANYTHING THEY CAN NOT GIVE IT TO YOU, SO HOW ABOUT YOU GIVE THESE THINGS TO YOUR SELF, LOVE YOU, APPRECIATE YOU, ADORE YOU, PRAISE YOU, AFTER YOU ALL YOU ARE EVERYONE OF THE THINGS ALREADY , YOU ARE ALREADY ADORABLE, YOUR ARE ALREADY PRECIOUS, YOUR ARE ALREADY LOVING YOU ARE ALREADY KIND, FOCUS ON THESE WONDERFUL THINGS ABOUT YOURSELF AND FORGET THE REST. THE MIND IS A TRICKY DEVISE, IT TENDS TO GO WITH WHAT EVER YOU ARE THINKING ABOUT, SO DO YOURSELF A BIG FAVOR THINK THOUGHTS THAT MAKE YOU FEEL GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF, APPRECIATE YOU AND ALL THAT YOU HAVE. YOU WILL GET MORE OF WHAT YOU THINK ABOUT, SO THINK GOOD OF YOURSELF,. BE KIND AND GIVING TO YOURSELF, YOU DO MATTER, YOU ARE IMPORTANT, AND I ADORE YOU . I AM SENDING LOVE AND BLESSINGS TO YOU
I WISH YOU THE BEST FEELING POSSIBLE. BE THAT WHICH YOU WANT OTHERS TO BE. BE
2006-10-24 08:14:31 · answer #1 · answered by bonnie f 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have had a difficult time with my parents as well, not feeling loved and alone as you say. This is a very difficult thing to deal with. While I am not an expert at this either, my recommendation for you is to focus on those who do love you and go into counseling so you are more equipped to deal with this. Good luck.
2006-10-24 07:47:45 · answer #2 · answered by I'm Trying 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simply because they have your love and devotion so they feel they have to fight for their other childs love and devotion.
2006-10-24 07:29:25 · answer #3 · answered by home_maker97 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋