She usually doesn't take me seriously, although I'm old enough to be certain of my identity. She thinks it's some kind of disease or phase that I'm going through. How can I convince her?
2006-10-24 07:19:27 · 22 answers · asked by ana.mellise 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
my guess is that she's already convinced; she is just acting like that possibly because she's scared of the fact that you may be bi. So although she believes you, she tries to cling to the hope that you may be wrong.
2006-10-24 07:34:01 · answer #1 · answered by nightlyspell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, Your mother is just in denial, and she will be for a long time. She doesn't want to accept the fact that her daughter likes other women. She's hoping in the back of her mind that you will probably change after time. The best thing for you to do is to leave this situation alone and just move on with your life. Don't keep trying to convince her because your just wasting your breath. Let her believe what she wants to believe and leave it at that. You know who you are and what your likes and dislikes are. You don't have to keep convincing someone of this. Let it go and just live your life.
2006-10-24 14:27:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might not ever be able to "convince" her of anything!
Parents have a certain idea of who their children are going to grow up to be. Once you tell them that that is not who you are, it can be difficult for them to lose that dream/idea/hope.
Definitely find a PFLAG (Parents & Friends of Lesbians/Gays) chapter in your area. They have tons of information that can help you in the coming out process. Maybe you could even take your mom to a local meeting, where she could meet other parents who are going through the same thing for support.
http://www.pflag.org/
Try and be as understanding with her as you want her to be with you. Give her time to make sense of it on her own. This is obviously a very emotional time, but if you can keep yourself calm and educated with facts, you might be able to win her over.
2006-10-24 14:25:15 · answer #3 · answered by Marie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the age she probably doesnt believe u if ur in the young adult or adolescence stage in ur life becuz a lot of young adults and adolescents go through stages like this it may be just the fact that she doesnt want to accept ur identity...talk to her about it and tell her that u really think ur bi and see what she has to say......like when ur looking at magazines and u see a girl that u think is hot be like OMG MOM THIS GIRL IS SOOOO HOT that should convince her.......
2006-10-24 14:24:17 · answer #4 · answered by blondie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have to convince her. She should know that love is unconditional, not sex oriented, whether you love a man or woman. Your mom is probably unaccepted at this point because she doesn't understand. Time will tell. Your mom should take the time to listen to you, not have you convince her. What a shame. Good luck.
2006-10-24 14:24:11 · answer #5 · answered by luv4airy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm certain it is a phase. You are caught up in the lust of the world...if it feels good do it. If you really believe it's ok, that's on you, but chances are if you really think about it, you're not bi and your mother is right.
2006-10-24 14:22:13 · answer #6 · answered by favrd1 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do you want to convince her. Your sexuality is your business, not moms. You came out to her and she can't handle it. Just be who you are and don't try and convince her of anything. She will get it when she sees you in a happy relationship.
2006-10-24 14:21:57 · answer #7 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mothers do tend to know us more than we may think. But you shouldnt try to convince her if that is how u really are. Be happy with yourself and dont worry about it.
2006-10-24 14:23:09 · answer #8 · answered by Curlz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel like you have to convince her? Just live your life and don't talk about your sexuality with your mom. She may not really know how she feels about it and just wishes that it were not true. She will accept your sexuality when you settle down with whoever you settle down with.
2006-10-24 14:26:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
why would you even tell your mother that?!? you're supposed to be a vision of an angle not a snatch eating chick! learn to keep some things to yourself......unless you crave the attention which is why you mother probably doesn't believe you....i guess you're not as old "maturity wise" as you thought you were.
2006-10-24 14:29:55 · answer #10 · answered by sa-da-tay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋