My Finace, whom I love very much watches porno way to much in my opinion and I want to know why! He watches them after he gets home from work when I am still at work or whenever I leave the house. He always watches them when I am not around. He is well aware that it makes me feel very unwanted and like **** pretty much! I wouldnt feel this way but I think he would rather watch porn than have sex with me because I am willing to do it most of the time! Its not like I dont want to have sex!I even took all of his pornos and hid them from him in a VERY GOOD SPOT and he found them! I would have never thought he would have found them where I put them. And so I knew he found them because I saw a few of them were gone and I asked him about it and he lied to me and said he cant find them! So somebody please tell me why he is lieing to me about watching porno and why would he rather watch other people have sex than to have sex with me! I am not ugly or fat so I dont know whats wrong!
2006-10-24 06:57:00 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I completely sympathize with you - all these losers on here that just say because hes a guy and he needs it are really really stupid and barbaric. No man NEEDS to look at porn, its a stupid preoccupation of undisciplined men. I definitely wouldnt feel like doing anything with my boyfriend if he were obsessed with porn - like go get it from a magazine since you obviously prefer it over the real thing. I dont understand it at all and I wish you the best in trying to straighten him up!
2006-10-24 07:04:38 · answer #1 · answered by radiancia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh i wish i could call you on the phone because it sounds identical to my old situation. it was affecing me so bad. i thought what the heck is wrong with me. i must be fat i must be ugly i thought it was all me. and finally i hit rock bottom and said to him you want your porn and not me then have it cuz iwant out. i put my foot down and told him how it made me feel how i felt not good enough and how he was taking my woman hood away because of those porns. i couldnt do my job as a woman because of them. it was a very bad long thing. i explained to him that to me i felt he was cheating on me. and if i feel that way then there is something not right even if he thinks its ok. it is not okay dont let him tell you it is. i even heard from him saying well my buddies wife doesnt care if he watches them. i then said well i am not her and if it makes me feel this way then you shouldnt do it. go on to dr phils website and search until you find the couple that went through the same thing. read dr phil outlook on it, i also made my husband read it. it has been 1 year since then with no problem. i will never forget but we have moved on in a posotive way. i wish you the very best. hang in there ohmybarf@yahoo.com
2006-10-24 07:16:37 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this may be a controversy for couples counseling. a competent intercourse life is rather significant in a dating, quite once you're youthful (meaning that it basically decreases as you become older). It feels like he has some repressed matters that would desire to be dealt with (am I way out of the ballpark to have faith there might have even been abuse faster or later?). this might additionally be a controversy of what he thinks you approve of. i know which you have been doing lots to strengthen your intercourse life, yet according to hazard he merely honestly believes which you're feeling awkward or do no longer intrinsically approve. intercourse as quickly as a week, in spite of the undeniable fact that, isn't lots for 2 people who're the two youthful and healthful. His remark approximately feeling like he grew to become into dozing with a stripper is extremely off-mark, despite the fact that if. It extremely isn't loving or encouraging, it extremely is greater derogatory in nature. i could say to seek for couples suggestion, sexual issues are extremely undemanding in relationships, despite the fact that if that's relatively troublesome once you at the instant are not getting help from him. stable success!
2016-11-25 02:20:24 · answer #3 · answered by toborg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He lies about it because of your reaction to it.
Trust me, it's just a guy thing. There isn't anything wrong with you. Don't hate me but, to guys, women are like cars. We will pick the one we just can't live without BUT...we still look at other cars, admire them, imagine driving them, and some even pay money to temporarily drive one (eww). None of that means that we want to replace the one we have.
Sex is much different to a guy than a female.
2006-10-24 07:05:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Many of us watch porn, some do not.
This seems like a deal breaker for you as he will not change.
Either make peace with it or move on.
2006-10-24 08:08:48 · answer #5 · answered by onlineseeker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-10-24 15:56:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I watch it with my b/f and our sex life is really hot. If I see something that really freaks me out I ask him to move on to the next one and he does. It is a form of foreplay. Don't worry about it. Try it, you might like it.
2006-10-24 07:03:08 · answer #7 · answered by smecky809042003 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It might not be you at all. It may be him and what he wants to see.
He may like seeing other guys naked and doing things with women and may fantasize about being with another guy or having another guy join you two so he can see you and another guy do it.
2006-10-24 07:01:03 · answer #8 · answered by orygunduk1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave his @ss sitting in the dark and give that good lovin to sombody that cares.
2006-10-24 07:03:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
.... As long as he is reading and not out there playing stop worrying , its when reading turns to touching is the time to worry..
2006-10-24 07:01:35 · answer #10 · answered by tysgrandma99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋