My guy and I have been dating for two years...we rushed everything and had tons of problems in the first year, but the second year was pretty good and I am extremely happy with the progress we've made. Sometimes I get discouraged and have the thought in my mind...is he the one? I'm kinda scared to settle on that decision because it is the rest of my life...
2006-10-24 06:56:17 · 25 answers · asked by Benny 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
do you talk about the important stuff? if not then you need to. politics, religion, abortion, war, money, goals, kids (how many), what you plan to do with the rest of your life.
if you haven't discussed these things you will never be ready.
2006-10-24 06:59:46 · answer #1 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your gut instinct is almost always right and if you are questioning whether he is or isn't the right one for you, you've got a situation. You probably don't want to hear that but it's true. I would say 2 years (even a year) is a good amount of time to get to know someone. When you come across "the one" you will know. Everything just seems right and you don't question yourself or the other person. That's how you know. I met my husband in 1991 when we were 15 & 16 years old. And never did I have any question in my mind "is he the one". It just felt right and we connected on levels that I had never experienced before. When you meet the right person, you'll never imagine what it would be like to be with another. It's as simple as that. Good luck to you and don't fight your feelings if you feel they are true. Sometimes our feelings are so strong that we get scared and confuse them for being the wrong feelings.
2006-10-24 07:03:36 · answer #2 · answered by SoCalGal75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lived with my husband for 4 years before we were married, even though he asked me to marry in the very beginning........I wanted to be really sure,........because I had other relationships in past that had lasted 2 years each, and woke up one day to say,"Who the hell is this guy?"--you never totally know someone, and the quality of the time in those 2 years makes a difference, actually the fact that you faced some hard times and came through, is a good test-BUT if you are doubting AT ALL, THEN WAIT...........good luck
2006-10-24 07:05:42 · answer #3 · answered by blue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From woman to woman honestly, two years is not enough i went with a guy for almost four years and till this day he is not the one i would have wanted to be with i must admit i thought he was the one at one point in my life but in all honesty he was the total opposite. Men have hormones and feelings just like females one day they are up and just chillin the next day they can be a little moody, it's best to watch for any signs of him either straying away or being there for you through hard times. I still say be careful you never know who God places in your life just think is he there for the season or is he there for a lifetime?
2006-10-24 07:04:18 · answer #4 · answered by Shelby W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the rest of your life? You're not trapped or stuck with anyone...be together as long as it is good and right for you both...if a time comes when you two are no longer a good match, then go your separate ways...this life is too short to stay with someone we're no longer a good partner for or with...
Two years is plenty of time to decide whether or not you want to marry (which, I assume, is what you were getting at with the 'rest of my life' comment)...but remember, it need only be as long as you both want to be together...don't go into it thinking you'll be trapped if it doesn't work out at some point, or things change...
Some people are together many years, and their partner does something totally unexpected...so, we may not ever truly "know" someone...but then, we often don't ever truly know ourselves...
2006-10-24 07:00:57 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No....no matter how long you two been together you never finish knowing about your significant other....we never stop learning something new or different from our partner. Time can only make you believe you know someone when in reality you dont, and if you have this thoughts then you should analyze your relationship and the meaning it has for you and how much it could benefit you in the long run. Good luck
2006-10-24 07:01:08 · answer #6 · answered by Lizzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's the guality of the time you've spent together,
Not the amount of time.
I dated mt my husband for 7 years before marrying him,
I thought I knew him completely.
We got married and next day he was like a different person.
They say people change, I don't believe most do.
I think just living with them we find out the kind of person they really are.
I made a big mistake , just be careful, Don't make that mistake yourself.
2006-10-24 07:07:58 · answer #7 · answered by eviechatter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 years is a long time to know someone but you should still think hard before taking any step further because ultimately it's your life.Discuss with him and then decide. Always look at both sides of the coin before making any decision.If you think that he is the best person and you might not be able to find someone better than him then go for it.
2006-10-24 07:02:22 · answer #8 · answered by ABCD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should consider the 3 C's b4 you settle for only one 4 the rest of ur life... Commitment (R both you and he committed 2 making it wrk regardless?)Communication.Is it freely flowing most of the time about most everything?and most important Compromise.Not always ur way or his way but an understanding of both ways..
2006-10-24 07:05:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I am with my BF since 5 years and still we have complications and fights b/w us but the next day we appolozised each other and its gone. we dont keep in heart . rest you know better that he loves you or not. if he really loves you then whatever you do he will be mad for one day , 2 day but the next day he will definately come back to you . but to keep the relationship you really have to give or take , if someday he did something wrong which you didnt like express yourself but again forgive him for that. thats the love is UNDERSTANDING. some times two years are less but sometimes two days are more. its just a click to your heart . it will come automatically if he is the one..
2006-10-24 07:10:19 · answer #10 · answered by suziecab 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
negative each day u will learn something new about your partner and it is great u r both making progress dont be scared just follow your heart because in relationships u have got to be bold and sure. i didnt expect my own to work i had the same feelings as u but guess what we are getting married after three years and one child. just relax
2006-10-24 07:02:53 · answer #11 · answered by aretha f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋