ive been waiting for her for so long
ever since last year.
i have never said i love you to her before.
nor say ive waited for you
ive known you so long,
we smile, wave like youre my dream girl and im your dream boy.
but now i found out you broke up with your fcked up boyfriend i heard about.
and now you go to someone else.
i dont know whether i should tell her my feelings right now.
to tell her i love her, ive been waiting for her
the thing i fear is,
what i say,
will it change anything?
if it does change, will it change for good or change with a heartbreak?
will it worsen the chance of being together with her?
2006-10-24 06:54:16 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
she lied to me,
she said that night she was all by herself now after breaking up with her ex-boyfriend
but now, i found out shes with another guy.
WHY DID SHE LIE TO ME? why?
because she has feelings for me and doesnt want me to know the truth?
or what?
2006-10-24 06:57:35 · update #1
In my heart, I hope you do tell her. And she falls for you.
Then, someone else comes along and does the same thing again, only to your relationship and now it's destroyed because someone meddled in your life by saying I love you to your girl.
Are you out of your mind? She is taken, for now.
THE GOLDEN RULE APPLIES, "Do unto others...."
Step back from the girl, and cowboy up for a change.
Time will be on your side some day down the line. Patience my friend or beware the wrath of your own selfish actions.
2006-10-24 07:00:50 · answer #1 · answered by Michael K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had guys say things like, "If you're ever in the market for someone, call ME." I think I'd rather hear something like, "If things don't work out with this new guy you're seeing, and you want someone who's crazy about you & who'll be good to you, I'll be waiting and hoping. Until then, I'll always be your friend." If she's worth having, this will touch her. If it makes her act indifferent toward you, you know that she isn't "the one" for you. I wish you the best. I know others have said "leave her alone, she's taken", but what if she's on the rebound and marries the wrong guy because of clouded judgement or because she thinks nobody else is interested in her?
2006-10-24 07:04:32 · answer #2 · answered by Angel L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can tell her and I suggest you do so you dont spend all your time wondering what if. However, you also need to be prepared for what she might say. Chances are she is with this other guy as a rebound. She is probably vulnerable right now, and fell for the first guy she met. Tel her how you feel, its not like you are going to die or something. If she says no, be prepared to face that and also the changes between your friendship. If you are great she will realize it. Good Luck
2006-10-24 06:58:57 · answer #3 · answered by keeping it real 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Judging by what you said and the way you phrased it, you are a young buck. It is generally my rule to stay away if they have a mate, Dude it saves money on visits to the dentist. If she is broke up with her boyfriend. Go ahead what is stopping you?My young friend pain is part of the life experience. My wife died in March and I am still broken up but, my friend you will never know until you try. Go for it my friend.
2006-10-24 07:04:37 · answer #4 · answered by robert s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What have you got to lose? You already have the heartache you are so afraid of. If you truly love her and no wedding ring is on her finger, then, by all means go for it. No matter what the outcome you will be able to move on with her or without her. At least you will have your answer. Not knowing is the harder part of this problem.
2006-10-24 06:58:50 · answer #5 · answered by Letsee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love someone I believe you should tell them regardless of their current situation. Love is something to be shared and cherished not hidden away.
HOWEVER, realize that it could cause problems between you and this girl. Be 100% certain that it is something you want to do and that if she decides to put you out of her life that you can live with that.
Sometimes you need to wait for the right moment. Good Luck!
2006-10-24 06:57:26 · answer #6 · answered by Scotsman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't tell her how you feel...besides, from your post you don't really know her so "love" isn't what you are feeling...
How would you like some guy to tell your girlfriend that he loves her? Ya probably wouldn't dig it much, would you?
Don't do anything to someone that you wouldn't want done back to you...and leave the confessions of feeling to a time when she is not attached to someone else...
2006-10-24 06:57:16 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have experienced a romantic love--that's all. Otherwise known as Infatuation or a "crush." Don't be too hasty and don't be to dramatic. Ask her out for coffee--and get to know her. You may find she is your mate--or that she was better off in your dreams.
2006-10-24 06:58:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you really care for this girl. However if she is in a relastionship i wouldnt come out and tell her but tell her that you care for her and that are willing to wait for her. She will respond positively and know that you really care!
2006-10-24 06:57:02 · answer #9 · answered by Chrybaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you love her-- ONCE ONLY--. when you have a private moment. dont try to be mach and say it in front of her new bf. that could get messy. sweetie, i suggest looking for a new girl. she obviously doesnt care enough.
2006-10-24 07:37:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋