How do I tell......?

Question

How do I tell my husband that i am going to leave him? ive told him a couple of times and he doesnt believe me.but I need to get enough money saved before I can leave I just dont love him like I use to and Ive been talking to another woman.

Ive told him why I want to leave but he doesnt see a problem with our relationship

Answer 1

Have your mind made up. This is the hardest part. Make sure this is what you want. If you think there is still something left inside of you for this person, chances are you will go back and will repeat these steps over again.
Make a written list of all the reasons why things will be better if the relationship is over. Think of what will happen if you stay with this person, and how many years of your life you could end up spending on an unhealthy relationship. Keep this list close to you at all times.
Think ahead. Have a day when you decide it's over and you are going to move on. Don't just jump up and leave on an impulse. If you can, talk to that person and say, "When rent is up this month, I am going to find another place" or "I'm moving in with my parents" or "You need to leave at the end of this month." This gives the person time to make arrangements. And, it's much easier to go back on an impulse then it is to go back on a calmly and clearly stated intention.
Keep the peace. Don't allow the person to suck you into the same old arguments, guilt trips, or drama. State your intention and walk away. Case closed. There's nothing left to do but follow through.
Once on your own, treat yourself. If you don't, you may get bored and call this person. Make some new friends and constantly have something up your sleeve. Do things that you were not able to do because of this person. This will let you know that you have still got it and make you feel good inside.
Cut off all communication. Even if you intend to stay friends, it's a good idea to avoid contact with this person for at least a month after you break up. Otherwise, it's extremely easy for them to slip right back into their old role in your life and start the cycle all over again.
Try not to think about or bring up old memories. If friends start talking about this person, tell them you don't want to talk about it, whether good or bad. Get rid of gifts, photographs, and any other relics of the relationship--or at least put them way out of sight.
Prepare for the possibility that your ex may say things to your friends, family or co-workers and make you look bad. He or she may not have been ready to let go like you did. Be the mature one and laugh about it. Eventually it will stop.
Remember that this was just not the "one." Oh well, things couldn't work out. This is life. Make sure you still have what it takes to be good to the next person you are with. Remember the traits of the person you left and compare them to the person that you are interested in. This will help it from happening again.



Tips
If this is a marriage, you of course have to file for divorce before you can make decisions on how things are going to be. Sometimes the other partner is not willing to leave, thus of course making it harder for you to move on.



Warnings
If your soon-to-be ex is particularly manipulative, possessive, or controlling, prepare yourself for potential harassment and/or stalking. Protect yourself.
Remember that there is no turning back (well there is, but it's very unlikely). Be sure this is what you want to do.

Answer 2

It's not going to be easy because for those simple little words his and your whole life will change. Of course he doesn't believe you that your going to leave him.
The most you could do to leave him is to get money saved up and move in with this "other woman."
Rent an appartment and then get a house together if you really feel you love her more than your husband.

Answer 3

Don't say a thing just save the $$$ and leave a note. Somewhat like a midnight move with no forwarding address.

Answer 4

Save your money, then leave. This guy sounds clueless. He will figure it out when you are gone for a while, maybe. I suspect this is part of the reason you want to leave, he apparently does not listen to you much.

Answer 5

Just have a place lined up, gather your belongings, and tell him - I'm moving out. That should drive the message home.

"I don't love him like I used to" is a pretty lame excuse for leaving, I must say.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Good riddance..you're husband is better off without you. Marriage is supposed to be a lifelong committment and you aren't mature enough for this. You don't love him like you used to because love changes as you mature girl. What happened "til death do us part"?

Answer 8

i know how what you are going through although im dont think i am leaving. why are u leaving?? just tell him the truth it may be hard but its probably for the best. good luck to you.

Answer 9

wow another women its bad enough you are leaving him but i would go some where in public and tell him that you are for sure leaving him for your safety

Answer 10

Take him to dinner. Lay out your plans to leave and just leave. He'll figure it out when you don't come home for month