Iam always thinking about sex and have urges Iam more sexual than my husband why do i want more sex than him

Question

I have always been sexual driven but towards my husband unfortunetly I crave it more and he doesn't I understand cause he is overwhelmed with work but I have needs and I would like to have it with him I ask for it but he tries to change the subject I feel like I am living with an old man and he isn't I just want to have it with him but if he doesn't want to have it like I do, I don't know? I love him very much but I don't ahve much patience about it and we use to have sex all the time every morning always before he went to work and always on weekends now once a week maybe that is too crazy for me I need it consisitently and longer than 1 minute!

Answer 1

im sorry, but how do you know my story exactly word for word. No im not kidding. im 32 and totally wanting sex all the time!! it drives me crazy that he is always to tired. he even bought me a toy but i feel guilty using it since i do want him. he also lasts for about 4 min if lucky. when he is in the mood, thats when the kids are wanting my attention at the same time so he gets pissed that i wont, or they wont stop banging on our door. yes ive thought of the other men thing and have had offers but im true to my vows since i do love him completly. heres what gets me though.. he wants me to oral him more, but yet he is the one who always gets the release in sex when we do have it, and im always left hanging out there.. so why should i do this to please him when im never pleased from any of it???

Answer 2

It's not uncommon for two people who love each other to have different sexual needs and desires. Think about it: You and your Husband probably don't eat the same amount for dinner, so why should you expect your sexual appetites to match? Still, this kind of disparity can cause resentment to build, so you need to take a closer look at just how wide your libido gap is. Consider the following five questions:

1. Is the difference between your drives huge (you prefer sex five times a week; he's fine with twice a month), tiny (you're OK with three times a week; he wants it twice) or somewhere in between?

2. Is your Husband capable of being seduced into sex, even if he starts out lukewarm?

3. Is he willing to give you sexual attention — or bring you to orgasm — even when he's not interested in having intercourse?

4. How do you feel when he says no to sex?

5. How does he feel about the difference in your respective levels of desire?

If there is truly a gaping chasm between your desires — if your partner can never be playfully seduced, if he's not willing to satisfy you when he's not in the mood, or he doesn't enjoy arousing you — then this disparity has the potential to be a problem over the long-term, especially if you feel deeply unhappy or hurt when he says no (as opposed to not taking it personally and finding a way to give yourself an orgasm). You're also likely to run into problems if he reacts to your desires with defensiveness or accusations that something is wrong with you.

Answer 3

The sad part is we let the work day world get us all balled up in knots and forget what is good with the world. first, you need to have a long talk with your man. Tell him how you feel and whats in your heart.

Next add spice to Love Making. Life is too short for a wham bam thank you Mame, explore, try new things, take time to enjoy the feelings it brings.

My wife and I take off four or five times a year for getaway weekends and yes, we do sight see and all the other stuff, but at night, we lock the door and have long nights of passion and Love. We sleep in the next day.

Best advice is talk to him, tell him how much you Love him and that you don't want to feel like your married to an old man. Tell him you want to pleasure him, enjoy being with him, and share the Love and Passion the two of you have.

Sometimes guys need a wake up call. Don't give up on him just yet, most guys do slow down as they get older, but they shouldn't just stop wanting sex. Some of us OLDER guys seem to be just the opposite, which is fine with my wife, more is good in her eyes.

Answer 4

I am in the almost opposite situation and I can feel your pain, to quote one of our former presidents. My wife and I used to have a great sex life and now we have nothing. I still love her and want to be with her but I am thinking very seriously about an affair and that would be wrong, wrong, wrong. Don't you think about it either. Have you tried a good vib? There are some really good ones out there that will help curb the drive. They are not as good as real sex but they can help. Unfortunately, there is not something like that for a man unless you want to spend big $'s on it.

Try to plan something on the weekend like a date or something. Rent a motel room and pretend you are not married. Go on a mini-vacation for a few days. Get away from familiar settings. If nothing else try the back seat of the car. Dress sexy. Seduce him.

Hope some of this helps you.

Answer 5

You need to sit down and tell him how you feel. I went through the same thing with my husband. I was a stay at home mom so I was ready to go at any time. He was tired and stressed when he got home from work. I told him I needed more time with him and began giving him other stimulations, such as new lingerie, new tricks I had found in tantric books, sexually explicit notes and phone calls, after ironing his uniform pants putting a thong in the pocket, etc. I catered to him at first and once he was worked up it became all about me. Good Luck!

Answer 6

Well, try working with him through his tiredness by having him a meal ready when he gets home, let him take a short nap, and wake him up with a great perfume in a nice outfit that will open his eyes to a dream. He'll probably think he's in a fantasy which could cause you to find out how uncontrollable he can be when provoked. Men need stimulation from time to time to feel like they are really needed and appreciated in the bedroom as well as outside of it.

Answer 7

This is not uncommon that in marriage one spouse is more interested in sex than the other.The following are survey result of sex frequency
No sex in past year 3.7%
No sex in past month 13.6%
Once or twice per month 20.1%
Once of twice per week 27.4% your frequency in the middle
Three to five times per week 18.5%
Five to six times per week 5.5% This what you used to do.
Daily 2.6%
More than daily 3.2%
You need to discuss with your husbands your needs.
When it comes to talking with our partners about sex, panic can often set in. This is probably the reason so few of us do take chances with our partners, and try and share the really difficult stuff of our sexual lives. Here are ideas on raising those hard to raise issues.
1. Clarify the Issue for Yourself, Sex is complicated, your feelings may have as much to do with your own baggage and history as it does with what your partner is bringing to the table. If something is on your mind, sit with it for a while and clarify what doesn’t feel right. Some people find writing a helpful way to do this, others will talk with close friends. The point of this is not to start complaining to others or placing blame, the exercise is all about you and how you feel.
2. Try to Write it Down Don’t worry about floral language or grammar. Writing down what you want to talk about is a great step to clarify your issues for yourself and practice the way you might communicate it to your partner. Some people actually write their partner a letter, and end up giving it to them at a later point. Letter writing can be a powerful way to communicate your thoughts and feelings, and if done along with talking it can increase intimacy in a relationship in surprising ways.
3. Practice the Talk If you’re nervous about bringing it up, practice. If you have a good friend you can do this with great. Otherwise, practice on your own. Before every major “talk” I’ve ever had to do I sit down in front of my computer screen and do it. If my monitor could talk, it would probably tell me to get a life, but it’s a great tool for me (and I’m pretty sure my monitor is too old a model to be talking).
4. Consider Your Timing One of the most important considerations is when to talk. This will depend a lot on what you are talking about. Raising your dissatisfaction with the frequency of your sex life minutes before your kids are due home (or your in-laws are coming over) is not a good idea.
If talk will not help consider counseling. Be patient and tell him always how much you love him.
Masturbating will help to relieve sexual pressure 92% married women masturbate.

Answer 8

That's common i know what your talking about...I also been there
i know you need it but try to control it...sooner or later he'll be begging you for it!! If that doesn't work then there's nothing wrong with buying yourself a toy...and if the batteries are good then you don't have to worry about the 1 minute thing lol!

Answer 9

Sounds like it's time for some couples counseling perhaps? If his drive used to be closer to yours, and isn't any longer, then y'all need to find out why and see if that can be recified (if he wants to)...

...a good sex life is very important to a relationship...letting this go without fixing it between the two, is likely to lead to problems in the marriage and/or failure of it...

...people's sex drives don't always match...but if they are quite different, it needs to be addressed...

Answer 10

I have the opposite problem and want sex far more than my fiancee. Some people just have different sex drives. It is sad, but short of getting your husband to try harder to fulfill your needs there isn't much you can do.