How do I tell myself to giveup. I still love her but she wants a D and has cheated on me. He lives out of state and just came to see her and I found out. What is she thinking. She cann't leave our boys 14 and 17 can see. She has been talking to him for some time. She has had time to stop loving me. How do i just stop loving her. All I do is cry.
2006-10-24 06:46:48 · 15 answers · asked by skipper 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sorry... only time will heal.
2006-10-24 06:48:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok, I wish my fiance was home to give you advice. His ex was like that. She cheated on him. He was real hurt for a long time. It may hurt now, but day by day it might become easier, and some days harder...but your heart will slowly move on from her and grow open again.
Cheating is a no no. Right then and there it's a good thing for you to walk away. Love just doesn't stop. Give yourself time. And we're always here to talk to you and answer your questions or just an ear. It'll be hard but there are people who care. For real. Just don't give up hope, there's lots of people out there and in the future you could be with someone twice as amazing. Don't ever give up hope hun.
2006-10-24 13:50:11 · answer #2 · answered by Lore 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have been through trying to "stop love". Thing is you can't. If someone doesn't love you anymore there is nothing you can do. I know you don't want to hear that. But it's now time to think about yourself and what you future life with be like. BEAUTIFUL....why? because someone that you love can't CHEAT on you anymore. Let it go and be strong. Don't put yourself through that. Morn and get over it. Being around friends and family that love and support you will help you. Talk to them about it. They care about u and wont deceived you. good luck. DONT STOP LOVING YOURSELF BECAUSE SOMEONE BRUISED YOU!!! Wounds heal.
2006-10-24 13:55:00 · answer #3 · answered by luv4airy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your pain, but, no one can ever just stop loving there is a build up and for you, you will just have to take day by day and make it up in your heart not to be bitter by her wrong doing. You are going to cry and it is supposed to hurt, because it involved your heart. time will not really heal your heart, but it will make it a little easier. I wish you the best.
2006-10-24 14:18:38 · answer #4 · answered by jeleaya82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
apparently she never loved you and was just using you untill she found the next = bigger better deal. she is not worth your tears only your frustration over having been used.pack her bags for her, get an emergency custody order from the court and take her to the bus station and wave bye bye to the sorry b***h. and then file for sole custody of kids and child support. after everything is said and done. find a real woman who will truely care about you and your kids.
2006-10-24 13:54:03 · answer #5 · answered by grim_reaper_69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry things are rough for you right now if you need to talk email me at vomissie@yahoomail.com but to answer your question she probally did stop loving you and you never saw it because you were happy but even though it hurts try to do somethings on your own that you may have wanted go sky diving or buy a car just something that makes you feel good when my ex and i said good bye it was ugly but i knew in my heart it was over years ago but we have three kids and being a single mom would be hard but it is hard but i love being onmy own taking care of my children and being happy it does hurt though
2006-10-24 13:52:28 · answer #6 · answered by vomissie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Time will heal you. Devote your time on your kids. Find a hobby or a new thing to do in life.
Try something you havent done before, but have always wanted to do.
If she's done all that to you, then she is not worth your love and affection.
Keep your head up!
2006-10-24 13:50:50 · answer #7 · answered by karen_samoht 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you never do stop loving them, you just move on...i still love my ex of 5 years now even though he did to me what ur wife has done and the only thing that realy helps is moving on youll find a new love give it time..you cant force her to fall back in love with you so move on....
2006-10-24 13:50:56 · answer #8 · answered by melissap1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go out Shopping...and in case this doesnt help call up ur other girl frnds and talk to them try flirting to the max...Keep buzy...
2006-10-24 13:57:20 · answer #9 · answered by Kunal B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"If I had a choice to be her friend or her lover for just one night. I'd pick being her friend then I know I would always have her in my life" that's what I do to get over the pain,"Korney" I know but if she doesn't have the same feelings for you then you need to move on and if she is important enough to you then be her friend no matter what.
2006-10-24 13:53:57 · answer #10 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask yourself do you still loveing her? Love is only contribution. If you is conditional, then love will become own. The karma bring you two together, the karma stop you, let it be.
2006-10-24 13:51:12 · answer #11 · answered by johnkamfailee 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋