I'm at a weak point and want to call him. I shouldn't do it. He's not good for me.
Help. I need your support.
2006-10-24 06:44:34 · 20 answers · asked by wayouthere 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, I do love him, but he's not good for me.
2006-10-24 06:47:15 · update #1
I fell in love with him and I don't think he feels the same. He's never said. He's become distant, so until I know how he feels, I need to stay away. I don't want to give in and call him. If he decides he wants to talk to me, then O.K. but the longing I have to talk to him, gets overwhelming sometimes.
2006-10-24 07:06:33 · update #2
I wish you'd said more about what's going on. I take it this isn't an ex. So I'm curious how he's not good for you? You don't 'think' he loves you back? Well you may be right. That'll be a problem with every relationship you ever have though. Loving them and being afraid they won't love you back. It's a scarry feeling to say the least. Suppose he does love you though? Or let's say he's in the process of 'falling for you'. I'm not sure why it is you don't want to call him? Is it because he said not to call or something? Does he beat you? I don't get it. Is it because you two just talked yesterday? Don't follow any kind of dating rules you may have heard from anyone, the only 'rules' that matter are the ones that work for the two of you. If you two like to talk a few times a day, then do it. A few times a week, that'll work too. So I know you want encouragement to not call him, but I don't understand why so I'm going to just suggest you put yourself out there and see what happens. What possible good could come from you 'not' being you?
2006-10-24 10:06:57 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alot of times we seek to find comfort in our times of uncertainty.
My guess is that you want to call him because even though he may be bad for you, he is a comfort zone. Now I don't mean comfort as he makes you feel good, I mean comfort in the sense that he is what you're familiar with.
You may not have an anchor right now, something that keeps you grounded to the feelings you want to feel. Maybe you feel insecure or lonely. So you wander back to what you know, to what you're familiar with.
Everyone has been there before. Just remind yourself of why he's not good for you and keep in mind that you're not alone.
And don' forget, you were probably once happy before him, and you will be after him.
Be strong and good luck.
2006-10-24 06:56:56 · answer #2 · answered by CR 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a cute and sexy person that deserves to be loved by someone who respects and treats you right. I don't know the reason you shouldn't call him, but there is always someone better around the next corner. Wouldn't you rather live life with someone that makes you smile rather than makes you cry? Life is too short to make the wrong decision and end up with a jerk that is stuck on himself and doesn't care about you. You are better than that.
2006-10-24 07:01:37 · answer #3 · answered by blonde0001-999 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please don't call him. Think about the many ways he hurt and disrespected you. Then go out and do something for someone else. That's what I did. I volunteered at a nursing home and found a great friend that way. Five yrs later, i met her grandson and we are now married. God has plans for you that you are not aware of. Be patient. You deserve someone who will nurture you and help you to grow as a person. Remember, you are a "catch," and he is the LOSER---not you!
2006-10-24 06:49:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Girl! Be proud. Pride was what kept me from calling "him" when it was clear it was over. Self-respect is one hell of a reason to forget those who don't treat us right. Keep yourself busy; read a good book, go out with friends. Things will get better in time, and you'll be glad you didn't give in. Good luck.
2006-10-24 06:48:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
does he love you? if not...that should be motivation enough to NOT call him! And you know he isn't good for you, so whats the problem? Just don't call him! It's not like you will never ever meet someone new... Don't call him and make yourself available to meet new people!
2006-10-24 06:49:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there and everytime I wanted to call I would call my friends or my family and talk with them. I'd ask them to talk to me to get my mind off him. Other times I would meet up with friends and leave my cell at home. That way i couldn't call.
2006-10-24 06:48:45 · answer #7 · answered by Teri M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you get a feeling that you shouldn't call...don't. First instict is usually right. Try and keep yourself busy and hide/turn off the phone.
2006-10-24 07:11:30 · answer #8 · answered by jessajolamb 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep working on the computer. We've all been there. Try and exercise. It clears your head and gets all of the frustration out.
2006-10-24 06:46:32 · answer #9 · answered by toobusy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good for you for being strong, hang in there. It sounds like you're making the right decision.
2006-10-24 07:59:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋