It's a good thing to grow up in a large family?

Question

to help me with a school project.

Answer 1

It depends on what "large" family you grow up in. Several people have already pointed out the good.
Let me point out the bad...
Some parents should not only NOT reproduce...but they should NOT reproduce multiple times!!!
I am the oldest of 4 children and our lives were a mess! There was never enough money...never any "treats" because there was too many of us. My parents could not organize a silverware drawer let alone run the lives of 4 children.
Life was pure chaos and misery.
The "large family" part was not the reason for the misery, but the bad parenting.
I am 32 yrs old and the youngest of the 4 kids is 23 yrs old. As adults we have finally started to bond and enjoy each others company. There was a lot of resentment between us as children.
Though I enjoy being an aunt I believe my decision to NOT have children is a direct product of my childhood.

Answer 2

Absolutely YES!

I am youngest of nine. With a mix of both male and female.There were a lot of sacrifices made to care for all of us, but when a child grows and begins to appreciate that it makes them a better adult.

PRO
many hands make light work
share and share alike creates a sense of fairness and consideration
always someone to turn to for advice
always someone to turn to in crisis or loss
a great deal of love to be shared
the inter-generational gap is bridged or reduced,siblings and offspring mix well

CON
sometimes individuality is lost
lack of privacy, everyone knows your business
everyone sacrifices, not just parents
leadership qualities may be subdued for teamwork qualities
yes hand me downs, but no pridefullnes
self-esteem can be lost because of the whole unit mentality
less individuality can lead to co-dependence instead of self-reliance

So there are definitely balances. Mom's body does take quite a beating. Budgetting is certainly strained by the number of mouths to feed and shoes to buy. But the love that is shared in a well managed large family is immeasurable. I also must say, not every one can manage a large family from the parenting role. Some are better at it, or just cope. Instilling values is essential.

And as for the brain development being reduced as the more kids are born theory posted above, HOG WASH.

Answer 3

What do you want to know? How large is large?

I grew up in a "large" family- 6 kids. I am the oldest daughter (there are 2 of us girls). I am the second oldest.

We had to share. I shared a room with my sister. I got my own room when she moved out to get married (I was probably 23 at the time).

My parents worked very hard to support us. We went to Catholic grade school and high schools. My dad worked 2 jobs for a while, then, my mom went to work. They made a lot of sacrifices for us.

We had a nice life growing up. We didn't have fancy clothes or lots of toys. We grew up in the 60s, so there weren't any designer clothes or computers. The other kids in our neighborhood had similar life styles.

We took very few vacations. I remember 1 big vacation - we went to Williamsburg, VA, and Washington, D.C. Mostly, on vacations, we went to visit relatives. We never flew. My Dad drove. Imagine, driving a station wagon with 6 kids inside all the way to D.C.!

We didn't always get along. I fought a lot with my sister and a younger brother.

What else do you need to know?

:)

Answer 4

There are 15 children in my family. Nine girls & six boys. And you can believe me when I say there are pro's & con's to that situation. I am 50 years old now, but I remember too well what it was like. "Pro's." At Christmas time, singing songs in our house sounded like a church choir. My Dad taught all of us how to harmonize, sounded pretty good too! We never ran out of things to do to have fun, and we didn't have to spend money to do it. When one of the girls needed a blouse to match the skirt or pants we were wearing, another one had one. "Con's" When one of the girls was "looking for that same blouse, it was usually already being worn. Laundry was a never ending thing. Finding a hairbrush was a joke! Waiting to use the bathroom was painful at times, to say the least. When someone did something bad, it was a two to three hour thing to get "that" person to tell on themselves! Finding enough bed space was another story in itself! And so I believe my personal experience at home growing up, is more than likely the reason I chose to have "one" child, and one child only. I simply learned to like Barbie dolls when my daughter would ask, "Mommy, will you play Barbies with me?

Answer 5

like evrything it has its pros and cons. Studies show that children who are members of a large family have lower IQs, the oldest has the hightest and they get lower as you move down. Also, each child has to settle for less usaully and dosen't get a lot of attention form parents. the good things are that the kids are never really lonely, they will always have someone to help them and play with, and that the older children can help the mom raise the younger ones.

Answer 6

When I come from a family of 6 children and we had good life. I 3 older brothers and 2 younger ones but we were happy. we went to church every sunday and wednesday and then we activie in stuff at the church. Mom and dad raised us kids in the right way. None of us did drugs or drink we turn out pretty good .
We used to farm and have garden and that was our means of food alots during the Fall and winter. well that was life in ours family.

Answer 7

i think , it relies upon if each person gets alongside properly on occasion it quite is demanding , like if the mummy and father do no longer arise with the money for to specific look after each and every of the youngsters, then the youngsters are actually not feed properly or can't pass to the Dr. yet then it would desire to be stable, think the family individuals lives on a farm, then they might all help out on the farm, while they're the right age & which will help them the thank you to be responsible so it could artwork out to be stable or undesirable it actual relies upon

Answer 8

Yes, it is a wonderful thing to have a large family, I grew up with 7 brothers and 2 sisters, 3 dogs, 2 cats a turtle and many fish tanks. We were always there for each other, never bored and always had someone to talk to. Our parents were busy but they found the time for each one of us, they made it to every piano recital, school play, cub and brownie meeting, dental and doctor appointments. I have beautiful memories of growing up thanks to my many brothers and sisters and of course Mom and Dad.

Answer 9

i grew up in a large family. I had five sisters. There are advantages and disadvantages to this. Advantages:
Never alone, always have a playmate
can't complain of boredom
intresting memories are made
disavantages:
Never alone, always have to share everything (including a bedrom)
Sibling rivalry (lots of fights)
Never get individual attention from your parents

Answer 10

my friends and I were having a slumber party at my house, after a day swimming and eating we decided to have a fright night, and started with Bloody Mary, (the thing you do in the mirrir where you call mary to come in).. after that we pulled out the ouiji board and tried to talk to my brother, who died as a baby..it was dark and we had candles going.. suddenly all the candles went out..we were so afraid that I ran upstairs with the board and threw it in the trash...after a long time we finally went to sleep...when we woke up the board was sitting on the table, and all the candles in the room were lit!
A few days later I learned my dad was listening in on us, and returned the board to the table, lit the candles...and banged around upstairs to wake us before the wind blew the candles out again!!