Ladies, Would you stay in a relationship in which you would be financially better off by yourself? I'm not talking about supporting each other. I mean in a situation where you pay all the bills, i mean for every little thing, gas, rent, grocery utilities, school everything. You are in a relatively good paying job but not able to save.
If by yourself you could save for back to school etc. But the guy is a good father, helps around the house etc.
2006-10-24 06:41:41 · 9 answers · asked by ayanagin 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well Ive been there done that. It hasn't been easy. I worked full time and he cleaned the house and took care of the baby. Now hes gone I don't have time to clean the house so I come home to a mess and have to pay for babysitting, it wasn't that bad having him around so now I work more than I should. So it's really up to you. I mean if you can handle it totally on your own go for it.
2006-10-24 06:50:22 · answer #1 · answered by Sissy Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question. If the guy is not working but making up for it by helping around the house then I would be happy but helping around the house means that when I come home from work everything is spotless just like it would be if he was working and I was staying home. I would expect our child to be clean all the time (hair combed, bathed, clean clothes). I would not allow him to take me for granted. Also if Im working and he is going out spending all the money I earned for my family then I would let him know that its not fair but If he doesnt have a disability or anything to keep him from being able to work then I would much rather us both work because we could save up for a house faster and be able to do more things.
2006-10-24 13:48:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, I have seen this situation...Experienced it enough to say that it is a tough call....
My EX-fiance was an okay guy, I thought I loved him, but then we lived together.....I paid EVERYTHING, but yet, he was the one who was making more money.....Needless to say, I eventually fell out of love with him, and partly it was because of this. He made almost 1000 dollars more than I did a month, but I had to pay for everything....I never hardly had anything for myself. I started wondering what he was doing with ALL his money.... ( never did find out) Then one day, I finally got mad enough about being the sole provider in the house that I told him to start helping! Well, he said he would. He told me he would pay for some of the utilities, and we would split food. Well of course he remembered his gut......But the bills never got paid. He started hiding them from me....and when I did see them...LOL....I was so far in debt...it wasn't funny....Then he was gone!
So yeah, even though I tend to think with my heart, and would like to say I would stay for love....Sometimes the $$$ issue can make it hard.....
2006-10-24 13:54:18 · answer #3 · answered by Cblack22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a woman loves him, yes. Love is first and money is next.
But thats a man's job. He should be paying the whole and if not atleast half, otherwise looks like only you love him and he does not care about you. Anyone can help around the house.
2006-10-24 13:47:14 · answer #4 · answered by Mr Business 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends why you are in this situaion. if the other person is a full time dad, studying or you have a big house to look after or some reason for him to stay home then this is fine. If its just he's too lazy then its not ok. If your kids are at scholl he should get at least a part time job.
2006-10-24 13:50:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I can answer this one from experience. Love definetely over money. My fiance is a stay at home dad at the moment and though he isn't a perfect housekeeper, he is a wonderful dad and does excellent with our one year old. I have no complaints and would much rather have him at home then working in a job he hates.
2006-10-24 13:46:44 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are married to a lazy bum and no matter how good a father he is he will never be a ideal father to your kid because he is a lazy bum. you are really better off byyourself get rid of this heavy, useless baggage!
2006-10-24 13:47:05 · answer #7 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone goes through ard times however if my guy is sitting on his butt all day i would get rid of him in a heart beat. but if he was looking for a job and i loved him i would keep him.
2006-10-24 13:44:18 · answer #8 · answered by Danielle W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money. Love is something someone just made up.
2006-10-24 13:44:05 · answer #9 · answered by toobusy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋