When to have kids?

Question

Recently, me and my boyfriend (practically my fiance) have been talking about getting married and having kids. Well, with the circumstances that they are, I didn't have any b/c pills and won't have for one month. Well being off the pills have really made my hormones all out of wack. So i will cry or be pissed off for no reason. So recently I have been wanting a baby even more. We want to wait to have kids until we move to Colorado in February but I really want kids now. How can I explain to my boyfriend that waiting 3 months isn't really a big issue? Also, he's concerned about not having any medical insurance, any ideas about that?

Answer 1

I know its hard to wait when you really want something. But think about how much easier it will be when you do have insurance and are all settled in your new place. Time flies believe me February will be here soon enough. In the mean time take this time to prepare yourself for being pregnant. Go get a check up make sure you're healthy and there aren't any other issues in the way of your fertility.

Answer 2

First off I am in the situation right now where we don't have any health insurance at all with a 5 month old, and you wouldn't think that it would make that much of a difference, but trust me it does! So far my son has had 2 throat infections and an ear infection and prescriptions are very expensive. I have been lucky enough that my doctor helps us out and gives us his sample meds whenever he can, but it's not always possible. Also you might want to think about having to move while being pregnant, this is something that we also did and it is not very much fun. You have to think about what happens (god forbid) if something goes wrong with the pregnancy and you are put on bed rest, or even if everything goes well moving into a new house, let alone a new location may not be something that you want to do. I just think that you and your fiance should sit down and totally think everything through. This is something that we didn't get to do as my son was a "surprise" and you have the chance to think everything through beforehand so I would definatly exhaust that.

Answer 3

You really want to wait until you are settled where you need to be before you get pregnant. Moving and pregnancy are VERY HARD.

We bought a house and moved when I was 6 months pregnant. I couldn't lift a thing and was so tired. I had my entire family put everything up for me then I spent the next year trying to find stuff.

Also, insurance is very important. From the moment you get pregnant, you will be taking all sorts of tests, bloodwork, etc. that could cost you THOUSANDS of dollars if you don't have insurance.

Play it safe, or it could seriously put you back for several years to where you won't recover financially. Having babies is costly. Trust me, I've had two babies in the past 3 years. I'm 40 and my husband and I are financially stable and it's still tough.

Absolutely get married first, then move, and start making those baby dreams come true.
Best of luck.

Answer 4

My best advice is to just make sure that you undertand the decision you're making. I'd def wait until you have medical insurance first because it's expensive to have a child and you will need proper medical care once you become pregnant. Also, it will be harder to move if you are pregnant b/c you don't want to be doing a lot of heavy lifting with a baby on board.

As far as your hormones...I'd say it's pretty normal because you stopped taking the pill your body is trying to adjust...same thing happened to me before when I had to stop the pill for a month or so.

I'd just talk to your boyfriend and let him know how your feeling and come up with a plan of action.

Good Luck!

Answer 5

Your boyfriend is there to keep you level just like you are there to keep him level... You help each other out!! You honestly don't want to make a move... whilst you are pregnant... trust me... I am soooo tired all the time. Not to mention you might be throwing up all the time... Beyond that though there is no talking a guy into having a baby!!!!!! you have to let him come around on his own... trust me I've been through it. I had to shut up and let him come around.. It was very hard for me, but hey it worked. I am 7 weeks... Good luck to ya.. oh and medical insurance is a MUST.. unless you are getting on a government funded insurance.
Don't forget your hormones are out of whack and your thinking is kind of screwy... Just be patient!!

Answer 6

How can you explain to your baby that you couldn't offer him or her a two parent home where the couple is committed in marriage? How can you explain to your baby that you would rather scrimp two pennies then wait for the proper time to financially stable with medical insurance in hand? How can you explain to your baby that you were so selfish that your needs came first not the baby? How can you explain to your baby that hell I didn't have any b/c pills for the month so why not go for it even if it isn't the right time?

Explain to your baby that you are selfish and you could care less that medical insurance, financially stability, and marriage matter. Go ahead go for it!

Answer 7

I advise you to babysit someone else's newborn before deciding to have your own. I encourage you to wait until you are married for at least a year AND you have medical insurance.

Having a child isn't going anywhere!!!

I am recently engaged, and I had the baby itch too. I kept my god daughter for a weekend and now I understand the difference. You cannot give your own kids back. They are your 24/7.

Answer 8

Go ahead and wait until you are married. I know it sucks to wait for marriage but you don't want to be pregnant during your wedding or lugging a baby around.

You want to find an OBGYN that you like and stick with that one during the whole pregnancy.

Answer 9

Try talking to him about it and good luck

Answer 10

well he is very smart since he understands that having a baby you do need health insurance please dont do the welfare thing our taxes are high enough..thanks