Both of my exes wants me back..one of them has been an ex from a while back but has wanted me for years and i kn ow he would treat me like a queen. we broke up cause we went to different schools...my other ex is my most recent and we broke up cause we just didnt get along..it became an unhealthy relationship..i gave him so many chances and he always ****** up, but he told me this time he is willing to do anything. we went out for 2 years..shared so much.. i just dont know what to do ..cause my first ex is such a great guy but i know if i date him it will be serious and i dont want that now..and my 2nd ex is someone that i miss ..but dont know if its worth it
2006-10-24 06:35:01 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you don't want serious now, and the first ex cannot give you that, then your choice would be to go with the more recent ex.
This is not hard, this is simple math really, guy A is great, but would want somthing serious which you do not, guy B has not treated you well in the past however he is willing to reform and does not want somthing serious? it is a simple equation - you lose nothing from giving guy B a chance other than your time.
Guy A however deserves somthing more that you may or may not be willing/able to give him right now.
Now here is the real question guy B is willing to change for you, but is he willing to change for you just to get you and find out you don't want anything serious? what does that mean? I think before you can make a decision about what you want, you need to decide what you want, and then explain it to both guys and see what they say.
I would however be suspect of what guy B tells you since he seems to be (and this is just me so I could be wrong) in the say anything to get her back mode. Also no matter what, I would say guy B is probably the wrong choice over sombody new, because if a relationship is unhealthy it WILL NOT GET HEALTHY unless you SERIOUSLY work at it, and serious is... what you are hoping to avoid.
So if the reality is that you will get serious with one guy or another then pick guy A.
Good luck my dear, and I hope this helps.
2006-10-24 06:41:13 · answer #1 · answered by Teclis98 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are desperate to be with a man, do whatever you want. You see, you already have 2 ex's, doesn't that tell you something?... In my opinion, you are not ready to start a family.
You did not say anything about loving either or neither one of them. Is it that you only want to be loved? If that's the case, you are heading to more failures.
You have to be in love to commit to a relationship, don't do it just because you need to sleep with someone. It is not only immoral but along the way you are going to get bitter do to so many failures.
2006-10-24 13:47:10 · answer #2 · answered by Mother of three 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that on your last sentence.... you just gave yourself a reasons why not to date the last ex and a good one why date the 1st ex. I think you should just follow your heart.......and analyze which one is worth your time and effort. Seems that the 2nd one is not worth it anymore so why give it another shot........if things dont work out at the 2st shot then there are less probabilities that it will work the 2nd shot cuz you can forgive but cannot forget what he has done to you in the past....so really analyze what your heart desires, and think rational and listen to your hear too.
2006-10-24 13:42:33 · answer #3 · answered by Lizzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the more recent one that he has had his chances and that when he can really show (not say that) he has changed then you will discuss it but not before.
Tell the first ex that you would be willing to get back together with him however you are NOT, I repeat NOT looking for something serious. If he is willing to agree to these your terms, well then you know what to do.
2006-10-24 14:05:07 · answer #4 · answered by Doc M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick both of them to the curb they both jacked up! I'm just kidding if you really like them thats cool but ask yourself this, which ex do you want to be the father of your children? That should help if not, go with your heart!!
2006-10-24 13:42:06 · answer #5 · answered by Careatha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#2 has had his chances; his type never gets his act together, he's just trying to string you along.
#1 knows how to treat you right, you say, and you only broke up because of distance. choose him!
2006-10-24 13:39:56 · answer #6 · answered by kent_shakespear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither. Find someone new and move on from the past.
2006-10-24 13:39:54 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋