i have no family or friends, i am in a relationship with somebody i dont love. i have told him how depressed i am. uni jucked me off because i didnt do the work. i dont believe in myself. he says if its what i really wanted he would help me die. He loves me and is the only friend i have, i am so scared to be alone.
i have felt suicidal for a year.
i am 19, and i dont know where to start, i am totally lost, i feel totally alone and unhappy.i am not resigistered with a doctor.
can anybody help me?
thankuxxx
2006-10-24 06:27:27 · 10 answers · asked by not really here 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You're only 19 and your boyfriend is ready to help you commit suicide?! At first I thought you were 70 or 80 with some serious wasting disease! No wonder you don't love him, he's a freakin dipsh*t!! If you think this guy loves you then you really have hit rock bottom! Someone who loves you will try to help you - & suicide at 19 is not help, it's a waste, it's a cheap way out, and it's pointless. You've probably got depression and need to speak to a doctor who can help you with the necessary medication if that's the case. I don't know why you have no friends/family and why you're hanging around with a boyfriend who clearly has the brains of a chipmunk - but maybe alot of it is down to the depression. Many people in their teens and twenties get depressed and feel that life is crap and they don't see the point of it. But they all grow out of it because it's a phase and whilst I admit that life can be scary and depressing at times it also offers wonderful things and great opportunities but you have to stick with it. You won't be alone because there will always be people who will want to help you but you do need to meet people and get to know a few. If you feel the need to talk feel free to send me an email and I'd be more than happy to try to help and be a shoulder to cry on. Take care of yourself.
2006-10-24 06:45:23 · answer #1 · answered by John P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get registered with a doctor and make an appointment. You sound very depressed and you need someone to talk to. If your boyfriend is suggesting he'll help you die before helping you to get help........I question his motives, but guess he's also young and may not know how best to help you. Your esteem is low, but with the right help you can begin to cope with life as it is and even improve on it. Please, i tis important that you seek medical and professional help. It is out there but you have to take the first step and ask for it.
I know what it feels like to be that low, felt like it myself when I was in my 20's but..........it takes more courage to fight it and get help than to give in. I'm over 50 now and if I'd given into my darkest times I'd not have had my wonderful sons. So, I know that there is light at the end of the tunnel. Uni jucking you because you didn't do the work is not fatal. I've made a successful life and career without even having a shot at uni.
A favourite quote I'd like to share with you........
You can give in, you can give out..........BUT YOU DON'T GIVE UP!
2006-10-24 06:40:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
woah - if you dont love him don't hang in there bcos he's teh only person around - weird kind of love to help a 19 yr old end it all. forget uni for now - you can go back when you're feeling better. get yourself down to your local A+E and ask for help now. tell them how youre feeling. ger yourself registered with a GP asap. if u cant fact going out and doing all that, then call samaritans - its free - sorry dont know number but get it online. there'll be someone to chat to.
there are so many people who can help you and will do. just watch how many responses u get to this. you are so young and have so much to do with your life yet. dont cheat the world of your sparkle.
this really is just a phase and it'll get better - you will get better. get out of that relationhsip - where are you hun? maybe get in touch with some womens services and see if you can get yourself some support? you are not and will not be alone as long as you dont stop asking for help. even if it is only on this forum keep chatting/typing till you feel u can pick up the phone and chat to someone - dont draw in to yourself so much that you cant communicate.
Good luck. even if u dont believe in yourself others do and one day when you are calmer and learn to be kind to yourself again you will start to believe again too.
xxx
2006-10-24 06:37:27 · answer #3 · answered by third space 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your answer is in the question.
1stly see a doc. if your having suicial thought it is a matter of urgency and they will put u on strong anti depressants that will, in the short term, give you the positivity you need to adress the underlying problems and resolve things.
depression is a b1tch, but there are so so many things that WILL give you pleasure in the years to come.
start thinking of the things you want to achieve, small goal places to visit, cos u have all those to live for.
and then like me, you'll be able to help out other people in the same situation cos you will know what they went through.
everyone is here to help
2006-10-24 06:37:38 · answer #4 · answered by matthew.armstrong 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can always go into my profile and send me an e-mail - i'll always be happy to talk to people with problems. i've had enough of my own, i've even had suicidal moments. it's better to talk about it rather than keep it bottled up inside.
Chin up and keep smiling. Remember if you can't love yourself then how can anyone else? you are worthy of happiness like everyone else in the world. try smiling even if you don't feel happy as it might make you feel that you've actually got something to be happy about and should smile whenever you can! lifes far too short to be miserable.
I'm here to talk if you want to.
:-)
2006-10-24 06:34:13 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Tickle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have 2 get registered with a dr huni bt firstly as the above have said contact the samaritans or somethin.if u need a friend go 2 my profile+get my details i,ll chat with u.u have all your life ahead of you+i no that probably doesnt seem appealing at the mo bt trust me 1 day it will xxxxxxx
2006-10-24 06:39:16 · answer #6 · answered by Nellynoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I can. Dont despair and stop feeling sorry for yourself. If this man loves you how can he say he will help you to die. If you are that desparate, then talk to the Samaritans. You are 19 and have your whole life ahead of you, please dont throw it away, I'm sure it will work out.
2006-10-24 06:33:49 · answer #7 · answered by fuck off 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should get registered with a doctor straight away and go and see him. Don't kill yourself or get your boyfriend to help you. Your depression might be clinical as well as circumstantial.
Hope things get better for you.
2006-10-24 06:34:15 · answer #8 · answered by nettyone2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the absence of friends/family/doctors i think the samaritans might be tour best bet to talk to
2006-10-24 06:33:13 · answer #9 · answered by tonywuzere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey,,,,you need to find you someone who can help you,,,You might need to call the suicide hot-line....Or you need to see a Dr. or counselor...Get some help please......
2006-10-24 06:33:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋