Today my bf broke up with me because he thinks we r better as friends. What can i do so other guys dont think of me as just friends? I act romantic with him but is that enough?
2006-10-24 06:21:34 · 9 answers · asked by qwertyuiop 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Other - Arts & Humanities
Just be yourself. You are fine just the way you are, and the right man will appreciate you for you. You can not try to be what the other person wants. We are each attracted to others for subconscious reasons and no one can try to be what the other person thinks that they want and need in a romantic attraction. The man that you will spend your life with will be someone who loves you for all that you are. When I was younger we were told to do this and do that, and never let a man know that you were smarter than him, always let him win, etc. That is BS. A good relationship is more than romantic love, it is also a friendship. The lovers that stand the test of time are those who are also best friends. Look at the couple who are happily married after 50 years.
2006-10-24 06:33:48 · answer #1 · answered by tonks_op 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The breakup says more about him than it does about you. It's obvious he isn't yet ready for romance and for committment, so he's trying to backpedal and get things back to the 'friend' stage. If that's okay with you, that's fine. If it isn't look for another boyfriend, because this one isn't going to change anytime soon.
When you do look for a new boyfriend, don't change who you are or how you behave. Just because one guy didn't want to get past the friendship stage doesn't mean all guys will behave that way. But if you try to promote romance too early in the relationship, you're going to come across as someone who is really easy, and that won't help either your relationship or your reputation.
Just be who you are, and let people judge you by that. If you pretend to be someone you aren't, the options are that someone will eventually find out you've been playing games and break away because your relationship lacked honesty, or they will ask for a long-term committment and you're going to be stuck with playing a role for the rest of your life.
Just being yourself is much easier.
2006-10-24 06:35:21 · answer #2 · answered by old lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i see he found another but hasn't had the balls to tell you yet.
you're better off.. why not right now get over him.. take yer time.. and do me stuff.. you know some art.. maybe things you enjoy or get a hobby or craft and make something out of it like some arty farty thing and submit it to places and make a small name for yourself?
there's places all over the net that'll publish yr stuff.
and www.writersdigest.com has market books that are indexes of places who'll take submissions.
do some painting.. sculpture.. i find sculpture is great for when you got alot of crap on your mind.
take a walk.. ride a bike.. get involved with others who are creative and intellectually thinking.. instead of drama masters who can't tell you the real reason why they're breaking up with yah.
so on...
soul search, go shopping... change your hair color... get a spa session done up... pamper yourself...
and don't try too hard to return back into a relationship and don't worry about trying too hard to not make it happen again.. there's alot of fish out there who'll like/love you for who you are.
don't try to find it.... it will find you.
be yourself don't lie to yourself... and if they can't handle that.. well their loss.
:D
just relax... do some surfin' and pop some popcorn and see what else creative you can get into.
it sure helps.. it does in the long run.
2006-10-24 06:32:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had 1 bad experience. That is no fun.
I have had 4 this year. It happens.
You somehow were not suited to each other.
There is nothing wrong with you!! Nothing!!
I cry. Then I must pick myself up and try again.
That is how life is, and it may just take a while, and going out with a few people, to find a compatable person.
There is nothing wrong with you, it is the mating game.
http://www.feelinggood.com
http://www.teenrelationships.org
2006-10-24 06:46:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I surefire way...
Don't let them hit the home run until there is a ring on the finger!
That will sort the catfish from the dogs pretty fast!
2006-10-24 06:26:41 · answer #5 · answered by David M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go and see a nice movie -- with a girl friend. then go for a nice "coffee place" have a capuccino and then come back home kiss your parents and siblings...and last sit on the computer..and write what you feel...for yourself. it will do lots of good. and good luck in choosing the movie.
2006-10-24 06:35:05 · answer #6 · answered by s t 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is be yourself. You can't make someone love you or be attracted to you. Either they do or they don't. You will more than likely have several boyfriends in your lifetime.
2006-10-24 06:25:32 · answer #7 · answered by Mom of One in Wisconsin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt matter what you do or say, just be yourself and eventually you will find the perfect mate.
2006-10-24 06:26:54 · answer #8 · answered by NICKY T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they just want to friends then i would not force it
2006-10-24 06:57:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋