.Why is it so easy for women to fall out of love then back in love with the same person?

Question

i mean why do u women always break up with a man and then want to get back with him. Is it because u see a change in the man or u realize u made a mistake by letting him go. Because im in a situation like this. Me and my girlfriend broke up but she still wants to go to the movies with me and hang out with me and she still tells me that she loves me. And she still worries about me and care about me. And im confused because she is the one that broke off the relationship and i still have strong feeling for her and she has a son that she wants to call me Daddy when im really not the child's father but im the only father figure in his life. And i love him and her a lot but im scared to make a move and tell my ex that i want her back because like i said she was the one who ended the relationship. So i guess the best thing for me to do is to respect her decision to end the relationship and just see how things turn out. I hope things turn out for the best and we get back together.

Answer 1

Because she's a moody psycho-b*tch? I don't understand people like her, who hurt someone and end the relationship but still want the benefits that come with friendship, still want that person to be there for them and to do things with them.

I've never ended a relationship unless my bf deserved it. But some people don't understand the concept of loyalty. Sounds like your woman's that way.

I think you could do better than her but, hey, it's your life. Go ahead and let her put your nuts in the blender. Some guys seem to like pain.

Answer 2

Not ALL women fall in and out and then back IN to love so often. There could be many reasons why some women do this, though. One: They don't realize what they have got, till it's gone, then they want it back. Two: Like you said, they may see a change (real or imagined) in the other person and then decide they want to give it another try. THREE: And I am thinking this MAY be the case with your woman. She seems afraid of commitment. She wants her cake and eat it, too. She loves you, but don't want to be "tied down". She wants the milk without having to buy the cow. (no offense). I was in and kind of still AM IN a similar situation with my girlfriend. I know she hates or fears commitment and sometimes wants all she wants, without having to work for any of it. But, I do think she is worth it, because I really love her. It sounds like you really love your woman, too. I hope you do what is best FOR YOU, not just what FEELS best. This is so hard to define and discern. I hate to see ANYONE in a "push-pull" relationship. My best advice is to always be honest and always try to communicate with her your thoughts and feelings as best as you can. Maybe show her your question here and show her some of the answers you have received about your question and then ask her what she thinks about it all. Love is a funny thing....and NOT in a "ha-ha" way.
Good luck!

Answer 3

You didn't say why she broke things off with you, but it sounds to me like she is a normal warm blooded woman. In the relationship you must have done something to break her trust in you or she did something and feels bad, so she broke the relationship off, but that doesn't mean she doesn't still care for you or love you. She wants to protect her feelings as well as her childs, but she still loves you, so she wants you in her life at a distance. Make sense? You should definatly talk to her about whats on your mind. No matter what happens it is always best to be honest when you love someone.

Answer 4

Well, there is no easy answer for this, sweety. It seems to me like, or she is playing games with you or she is still in love with you, and it's difficult to know which one is the correct answer. I would advice you to walk away from this relationship, 'cause as you tell, you are getting hurt with the whole situation and, I don't know your ages but I guess both of you have to be pretty young, 'cause it looks as a immature behavior to me. Anyway, the one who has to take the decision is you, and only you will know what you need from a relationship. Good luck!

Answer 5

I think women go back to the person that they broke up with because they have a sense of security with them.Think about it, if we were together for years, you know everything about that person, why would you want to leave them?
As for you, I am not sure on what to do. I mean she did break up with you, if I were you I would keep my distance for a certain period of time and see how things go. If she tries to keep on calling you during that period, then I would ask her upfront, why she is still hanging on to you when she broke up with you. I am sure it is hard for you to let her go, but trust me in the end it is worth it.

Answer 6

Maybe she is confused. I left my husband once a long time before we were ever married, but I would still go to his house during the day, and do his laundry, and put some food in the fridge to make sure he'd still be taken care of. Your ex obviously still loves you, even if she never gets back with you. If your still capable of dealing with the strain that it causes to be around her, then stay her friend. She may need a friend right now more then anything else.

Answer 7

Because sometimes it's easier to be a persons friend than their lover. Maybe she has been in a relationship where things have happend the same way that they are occuring with you but she doesn't want to be hurt. So she builds this wall to keep out pain but keep asking you out because in reality she still love you and want to be with you.

Answer 8

alright, basically, shes got exactly what she wants from you. A very good friend with no relationship attatched to it. I firmly believe this is what most girls want when they just "want to be friends." They don't want you out of their life because they're afraid nothing better will come along, so they string you along as a friend. Show her what's up, and stop hanging out with her. Say "either we're in a relationship, or I'm no longer seeing you." If she says your not, drop her, and don't listen to her when she comes begging, which she will. This will simplify your life ten fold, trust me, I just went through it.

Answer 9

You are in a dangerous situation...this decision needs to be made NOW! Either you are in this woman and her child's life or you aren't. It needs to happen now or you need to leave for the sake of the child BEFORE it is old enough to remember you. Every child of an age to remember blames themselves for the breakup of their parents...DON'T PUT THIS CHILD THROUGH THAT. Commit or walk...it's her decison..ask once and don't leave without an answer.

Answer 10

well i think she is playing with your head and she knows you love her too much for you to let go, and that by breaking up with you she know you will still be there anytime she needs you so ask her what really is it that she wants and if she don't straighten out time to get anew gf and start a new life!