How do I help my two kids heal after the death of their father which we lost due to drug abuse?

Question

Daughter is 14, son is 10. I had been separated from my high school sweetheart for one year and nine months. We live in a different state now but, still very close to all of my deceased husband's family.

Answer 1

All you can do is love them through it. Only time will make it better. Knowing they can and do have you to depend on is very important. At some point when the healing has taken place, you might use their experience in your fight against drugs for them. Remind them of how they felt and hurt because of what happend. Let them know that the same thing will happen to the people who love them if they let drugs become a part of their lives.

Answer 2

Your children should be your complete focus at this time. This is such a devastating event for them. I know because I lost my father when I was young. Time and more time never seems to help. Give them all the love and attention they need, and don't try to make them forget their father, but help remember, the good times with him. I understand that under the circumstances, there were probably many bad times, and I know this isn't easy for you, but help them to know how much they were loved by him. You are their strength now and they will heal, it just takes a very long time.

Answer 3

Check out teen Al-Anon or Narc-Anon groups. Also counseling. Place pictures of him throughout your house to help them heal, and discuss whatever you believe about the after death experience and try to help them explore their own beliefs.

Answer 4

talk about the good things that their father did before his life of drugs. talking is the best way to heal.

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Answer 5

Listen when they are ready to talk. Everyone grieves differently. It will take time.

Answer 6

Just give them time.