My man and I separated becuase he was in jail. Now he is out but cannot stand to be near him. I tried explaining to him and I stay in my son's room at night. But he said I should be happy he is out and with me and our son. What options are anyone provide out there??? Please
2006-10-24 06:08:04 · 12 answers · asked by Mercedes75 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
your man need some love,he is a changed man,after all those crap he went through it the jail.talk to him,dont make him a social outcast.he is a human wit heart
2006-10-24 06:11:39 · answer #1 · answered by g_pentium 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't ready to tell him everything, tell him you have a personal issue with being touched while you're sleeping and that it's nothing he caused until you ready to spill the details. I'm sure that he would feel great if you trusted him to share something so personal. Its important to resolve, especially if it's affecting you not going to class. College decides what you will do for the rest of your life.
2016-05-22 07:53:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to tell him to kick rocks and that it's over. Plus he prolly had alot of butt sex while he was in jail, that's gross, is that why you can't look at him? If he was in jail he's a loser and you need a good man who can take care of you and your son, not someone who's been in jail, if he was so worried about his family he would not have gotten into trouble, now he has a free place to live with you, no worries on his end.
2006-10-24 06:11:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's your house, change the locks on the doors when he leaves (call a locksmith). If you can't do that, then take your son and leave. Go anywhere safe until you can find a way to get him out of your house. I'd get an attorney and file for divorce, myself. If you aren't married, call the cops and tell them he won't leave your house! They'll get him out if he doesn't belong there.
2006-10-24 06:21:50 · answer #4 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he gross you out physically? Is it because you don't love him or never did.? Give it some time. If you still dont want to be his wife/woman.....then seperate ....it sounds like you may have been dating around while he was gone....maybe you found someone new....Why was he in jail? Is your son safe around him? Alot of info left out....you can't tell him if he is an angry man....and surely he needs sex after all those years in jail. If you don't love him, let him know after he gets used to being out.
2006-10-24 06:16:49 · answer #5 · answered by lucy p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you married? (not real sure) If you are not married, why did he come back to your home?? Did you not know that you didnt have feelings for him before he got out? why didnt you tell him that before he got out?
Myself, I would insist that he not stay in my home...and I would have to be honest with him and tell him that I no longer have feelings for him and would prefer that he not be there. Honestly, I would have broken the relationship off as soon as I knew he was going to go to prison...so that he would not have expected me to be there when he got released. My fear of the AIDS virus would make me not want this man in my bed either!! Things happen to men in prison, that they dont openly share with you upon release, and the chances of him giving you that virus is a good one.....he would have to go! I'd hate to hurt him while he is down, but I would have to look out for my own best interest at this point...he would have to go!!
2006-10-24 06:16:17 · answer #6 · answered by stephanie_6234 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you're going to stay with him, just tell him you chose to sleep in separate beds. Lot of happy couples don't sleep together for various reasons (one snores, etc.). If he doesn't understand that, then maybe it's time for you to move on.
2006-10-24 06:12:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is he even living at your house if you "can't stand" to be near him? Tell him to go find his own place, and move on. Sorry, I don't even understand the question.
2006-10-24 06:21:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell him straight that you are not in love with him. you could go on for years and be unhappy. tell him to move out. if he won't you move. it is better for all of you that you are happy.
2006-10-24 06:11:09 · answer #9 · answered by jooje@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to leave. Tell him it's over.
2006-10-24 06:10:07 · answer #10 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋