What constitutes as cheating?

Question

Is it boudary you have to agree on? Is flirting allowed? Is a lady allowed a male friend and vice versa? How far would you allow someone to go before you said 'THAT IT!'?

Answer 1

If you have to wonder if it's cheating, then it's cheating.

Basically, don't put yourself in sketchy situations, and you'll be fine.

I'd say the one thing you CAN do is look... "You can look at the menu, you just can't order." If you can't even look, you'd both go crazy.

Answer 2

Of course I believe in having friends of the opposite sex while being with someone, but not friends with benefits. And I believe cheating is any type of contact that arouses your sex drive or gives you those butterflies. A friendly hug, kiss on the cheek...No Biggie! But any further and I think its cheating> If I'm in a commited relationship I say No to flirting on both sides. It may open doors for more and give the other person the idea that you want more. If I found out my man was with another girl (meaning on a date, or holding hands. and especially if he kissed or had sex with her ...BYE BYE) And no second chances...if he does it once, he will do it again and again. I learned from personal experience! The hard way!

Answer 3

Have all the friends of the opposite sex you want.As far as what constitutes cheating,anything that your violates your partners ideas of faithfulness and vice versa (from an emotional affair,flirtation,freak fest whatever)is soley determined by each of you and what is agreed upon.

Answer 4

Well, it depends on what the two of you agree on...you gotta be on the same page. But since you asked my opinion I will give you what I deem as is/is not cheating:

It's all based on trust.....I have alot of male friends some I have had sex with (friends with benefits) but they are still friends, booty calls (dudes I can party with) and just male friends (would never have sex with!!)

Now my bf would have to except 2 outta of the 3 catagories. I would never give up my friend with benefits just b/c I was dating someone else...I just wouldn't have sex with him anymore...but we would still hang out. (And yes we have gone through our far share of bf/gf and both of us respect each others space and right now infatuations!) The second catagory would be my boys....by boys are the equivlant of what guys deem as their boys...the only difference is that "my boys" would hook up with given the chance, but they know they don't have a chance so we are all just friends. I would NEVER give up hanging watching football and playing video games with my boys just for a bf!!! Hell no!

Now coming on the flirting thing...yes flirting is allowed b/c I am a notorious flirt. Can't help it....sometimes I don't even know I'm flirting....or lets put it this way b/c I'm nice and cute guys think just b/c I talk to them I like them and are flirting with them!! NO!!! I'm being polite and conversing that's all.....but a lot dudes view that as flirting so my bf would have to accept the fact I am social creature and b/c I'm such an extrovert dudes are going to be attracted to me....it's all comes back on trust.


So you see....it's based on trust...but once that line has been crossed there's no going back and you may as well just break up. The trust will never come back when it comes to cheating.

Answer 5

It's definately something that both parties have to agree on. In my relationship, I don't mind if my husband goes out with friends, flirts a little, normal stuff like that, but I wouldn't want him having a good friend who is a girl.

Answer 6

Cheating to me is doing something behind my back and lying about it. I think having a friend is fine as long as you don't go wondering off into forbidden territories. Absolutely no flirting, because one thing leads to another. Bottom line is if you lie about something you shouldn't be doing because you know you'd be in trouble then that's cheating.

Answer 7

I think it depends on what your significant other thinks.

My rule is though if you put yourself in a situation that there's a possible bad outcome, you're flirting with disaster. I think flirting, depending on the degree is probably OK, but again, check with your Sig. other. Mine flirts with girls, but he knows where to draw the line as do I. We both have friends of the opposite sex, but neither of us spends alone time with them other than once or twice a year for a lunch date or something.

Answer 8

my defenition of cheating: flirting, hitting on other girls, kissing, making out, sleeping together-sex, oral sex, ********, hand job, being more than "friends".
my rule with my bf is that it is okay to check someone out,not okay to flirt or get their phone number, okay to have friends which are girls since i have friends which are guys, if he kisses, makes out or sleeps with someone either sober, half-sober, or completely drunk it is considered cheating. if he wakes up in the morning and realizes that he slept with someone but does not want to tell me and if his friends also know, he will get a worse reaction from me. no hand jobs or bj's allowed, and if i find out that he cheated on me without telling me i just say bye and walk away. that is what scares him the most because i can and will do it!

Answer 9

Flirting fine. However, I call it cheating when kissing and heavy petting gets involved. If someone i was seeing were to kiss someone else intimately then that'd be cheating. I'm quite iron fisted when it comes to partners getting too close to others: guess its borderline insecurity lol!

Answer 10

To me it depends on how you both feel and what is the limit. My limit is kissing someone else, having sex with that other person...etc. If I found my guy cheating on me by doing that, then he is out the door. I see it as if you are interested in someone else, end your current relationship, then go after the new person.