I am 8 months pregant with baby 3 and he has a "single mother" co-worker (that he admitted is attractive) that he takes breaks with, emails at work and goes out to lunch with on occasions. Now I found out that they have nicknames for each other too. I have never met her but he wants us to get together with the kids and all go to the park, should I be jealous or should I just go?
2006-10-24 05:59:50 · 17 answers · asked by reece 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He has admitted that she dates alot and is kind of sleazy
2006-10-24 06:13:30 · update #1
His pet name for her, CHEAKY because she has a big butt
2006-10-24 06:23:44 · update #2
Maybe he's just retrying to picture what sort of mom you will be. i say meet her and become friends. If she's your friend too it might at least put a speed bump in to him and her being stupid.
2006-10-24 06:57:03 · answer #1 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband had a secret friendship with a coworker. Also a single mom. I knew nothing about it until i caught him. And when i started digging for answers i did not like what i found. Anyway, my whole issue was that he kept her a secret from me, which made it look very bad. and to this day, i still think there was way more going on than he'll ever confess to. I would take comfort that he tells you about her and wants to include you in his friendships. I'd go and assess the situation. Be very tuned in on their body language and how they talk to each other. It's probably nothing. Good luck and who knows, maybe you'll discover that it really is nothing and have a new friend.
2006-10-24 13:31:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something about this situation does not sound right. If my boyfriend admitted to me that he was attracted to his female co-worker, send emails to each other, takes breaks together and now have pet names for each other do you think I would be hanging out at the park with her along with my family? If you are okay with what's going on and you are confident that nothing is going on between them, then I'd say sure invite her along. It all depends on how you feel about the situation but in my opinion, something's wrong with this picture.
2006-10-24 13:06:02 · answer #3 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok... :), gotta ad my 2 cents.
Someone who feels guilt, would never invite you to meet his "friend". Then again, my ex- brought home his most serious "friend" to meet me, then left me high and dry threw the pregnacy. I have a male friend whom went threw the same thing... his wifes "friend", came in the house, shook his hand, made nice with the baby, then had a good ole 3 some with his wife, and her other "friend"..
So, go to the park, go with a clear head, and the idea of making a new friend, but trust your instincts if things feel "off", they prabably are.
2006-10-24 14:51:26 · answer #4 · answered by think_about_this_gr8_1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see where some jealousy might arise, but I do not think you have nothing to worry about. It sounds like he is conscious of your fears, and is trying to ease them by arranging a meeting. Go to the park, you both already have a lot in common (pregnant). You may just like her. The relationship sounds innocent.
2006-10-24 13:14:46 · answer #5 · answered by Bill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't go it will send the wrong message. I would be more worried if he DIDN'T invite you.
I had a single mother co-worker who I was friends with, and she was one of the most MORAL people I have ever met.
Not every woman is out to get your man. He is allowed to socialize and talk to other adults beside you.
2006-10-24 13:11:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are asking this question means you are uncomfortable with it...he needs to know. Don't be accusing or try to control the situation...that will make him want to rebel against it. Explain to him that it makes you uncomfortable, especially now, you don't want to make it sound like he can't have interactions with this woman and be her friend but it's beginning to make you jealous. (This isn't the truth but tell him this anyway...) Maybe it's the hormones talking to some extent but you don't like sharing his attention until you get to know her better.
2006-10-24 13:06:10 · answer #7 · answered by Rabbit Ritto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you have anyting to worry about, he's apparently told you of his friendship, he would like to involve you and his children, this doesnt sound like something a cheating person would do, over the years Ive met female coworkers or friends that I hit it off with and felt she and my wife would enjoy each other, Ive introduced them and theyve become friends...
2006-10-24 13:04:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I'd go. You know your husband, his actions and body language. If you go you might want to be prepared for what you discover. With all the things you wrote Id say you already have suspicions. Be CAREFUL you are carrying a baby and its welfare depends on you. God Bless and protect you...
2006-10-24 13:15:04 · answer #9 · answered by deerlady2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he wants to introduce her to his family which is you and the kids if he wanted to hide you he would never mention taking you out to meet her and although he may be attracted to her it sounds like he loves you so go for it and have fun
2006-10-24 13:03:24 · answer #10 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋