i need some advise please i went out this weekend and seen my best mate partner with another women should i tell her as she might turn funny with me if i do i seen my mate today and could not even look at her in the face as i felt i was lieing to her although she dont even no as any else been in this situation before
2006-10-24 05:58:36 · 24 answers · asked by lisa h 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
When i was in this situation,i didnt tell her for months,but everyone knew about it except her.She was on the verge of a nervous breakdown because she thought she was imagining things (she had a feeling he was doing it) so i told her,i couldnt stand to see her so tormented.
The upshot was,she fell out with me for months as did a lot of our friends especially his mates,they broke up and i dont think she has got over him to this day.
She did speak to me again but things were never the same after.
2006-10-24 06:10:09 · answer #1 · answered by Pat R 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to her partner. Get the facts straight before you tell your friend. For all you know it could have been his sister! If you run to your friend without knowing the facts you might end up causing some major relationship troubles between all of you.
2006-10-24 06:15:44 · answer #2 · answered by katem1992 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the partner you saw them and you know what they are up to. Tell them they either finish it or you will tell your mate. Give them a chance to do the right thing before you step in coz these things can get messy when you're stuck in the middle, I know from personal experience!
2006-10-24 06:02:17 · answer #3 · answered by Tatsbabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to be the one to break the news, send the friend an anoynmous note describing the event. I feel that if your friend is really your friend, then they won't react harshly to the truth. If you really care about them, then you should tell them. If your friend doesn't understand, then don't sweat them. If they want to be hurt, let them deal with it the best way they can. Just make sure whatever decision you choose, make the right one for the sake of your friendship.
2006-10-24 06:10:02 · answer #4 · answered by pumpk713 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her. Trust me, I was in a relationship for 3 years before I found out on my own that my b/f cheated on me AND 2 of my friends knew. I am no longer in the relationship with b/f or with my 2 friends b/c I feel they deceived me too.
2006-10-24 06:20:10 · answer #5 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her. Because if you don't and one day she should find out that you knew but never said a word that would compromise your friendship even more.
And think about it the other way round. Would you want her to tell you if she saw your boyfriend with another woman? And what would you do if she didn't?
2006-10-24 06:12:48 · answer #6 · answered by nicoled2408 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would approach your friend's husband and ask what he was up to. He could have a good excuse. If he is really playing away then you have to tell your friend before someone else does. She won't thank you for it though.
2006-10-24 06:02:10 · answer #7 · answered by Ally 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better to let your friend know what you witnessed and have her approach her man for an explanation, however, be sure to tell her everything you saw no matter how incriminating...she needs to know especially if their relationship is a serious one.
2006-10-24 06:05:53 · answer #8 · answered by ne_patriots2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have a valid reason for being with another woman. Perhaps it's his sister, or an old friend. Did you just see them together, or were they doing things like kissing or holding hands?
2006-10-24 06:02:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just got to tell her. Break it to her as gently as possible, but be firm and ensure she knows that you know it was definitely her man. If she has any doubt with what you;re saying she'll disregard it. Good luck!
2006-10-24 06:01:43 · answer #10 · answered by Ollie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋