2006-10-24 05:56:56 · 34 answers · asked by Tropicalboy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Think very carefully about whether or not you might change your mind in the future. Really ponder it. If you can, try spending some time with children, like nieces or nephews, maybe read some information on parenting or some stories about parenting.
If, after all that, you can honestly say that you will NEVER change your mind and you absolutely don't ever want kids... break up with her. It's unlikely she will ever change her mind about wanting them, and you will make each other unhappy in the end.
2006-10-24 05:59:39 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be as simple as your ages. My husband and I married and neither of us wanted kids - then after about 8 years it became more important to me than anything and he had softened his attitude. We had two beautiful daughters and neither of us regret it. He was a great dad.
But it is definitely something you two need to come to agreement on. It would be horribly cruel to keep a woman from having a child - but on the other hand, if you feel you cannot be a good father - you should wait until your feelings change.
So having said that, you may 2 have to part ways, if you can't agree.
But - a side note. You will be totally surprised how you may not want children - then have one and realize you love that child more than life itself. Very true! It is a wonderful thing.
2006-10-24 06:02:54 · answer #2 · answered by chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for both of you is break up, she should not have to settle on a guy who does not want children ,and you shouldn't be a girl who does, because in the end there will be huge problems, one of you will you feel like you were cheated out of the life that you wanted
2006-10-24 06:09:29 · answer #3 · answered by Blackdog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell her the truth that you love her but you for whatever reason you don't want kids. If she loves you she will understand and ya'll can talk about it like adults and work it out together. A relationship is two people not one so keep in mind that sometimes you have to compromise and meet each other half way to make things work it can't be all about you and it can't be all about her either.
2006-10-24 07:08:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her honestly about the reasons why you don't want children. If you can't come to an agreement about it either way, then you might be happier with other people. It's a very divisive issue, just like getting married or living in a certain place.
2006-10-24 06:01:01 · answer #5 · answered by calliope320 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a new love who does not want children.
2006-10-24 05:58:29 · answer #6 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love and life is all about compromising. If you truely love someone, you will do anything possible to make that relationship work. Try waiting....later in life, maybe you'll change ur mind, if not, then it wasnt meant to be. Remember...just becuz ur in love, it doesnt mean that is the one who is meant for you. Loveing the wrong people, teaches you how to love the right person.
2006-10-24 06:00:43 · answer #7 · answered by She 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you told her this? If so and she still wants kids, you're going to have to move on and end the relationship as she needs to find someone who is willing to have kids, too. If she's OK with it, give yourself a few years - you might just change your mind.
I'm 28 and married - hubby is 36 and I also don't want kids. He knows it and says either way he will be happy so it worked out great for us.
2006-10-24 06:08:37 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lets see: that is the same scenario that my bf and i are dealing with. i want kids and a nice family and he for some unexplained reason does not want kids. my bf and i decided that since we want such different goals in the long run that we are not right for one another when it comes to settling down and such. in other words after the relationship is over to find someone who wants kids and him someone who does not want kids. i know that it is really messed up especially being a couple and in a relationship having to deal with this! tell your gf that she is too young to think about kids and that she should be enjoying the life she has right now! maybe she wants to get married to you sometime in the future and thinks that you will change your mind-that is what i tell myself day after day about my bf-until i have to realize that not you nor my bf want the same things as your gf and me. explain to her why you do not want children and maybe it will make more sense to her knowing that you do not want the dame values and goals as she does in that part of life.
2006-10-24 06:05:41 · answer #9 · answered by icycrissy27blue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she say when she wants these kids? You better be careful, she might pull a fast one on you, girls can be crazy! Do you never want kids? Maybe you should end the relationship if so, because that will ruin it eventually anyway, alot of people have that issue. She wants something you won't give her, she will find someone who will.
2006-10-24 06:00:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋