I recently attended a funeral/wake and was amazed at how many people asked that. Do they hear themselves? How do you think you'ld be doing if you just lost a loved one?
2006-10-24 05:35:00 · 12 answers · asked by Heather H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wizard's First Rule: People are stupid. (that's part of it at least) When you go to a grocery store, the cashier doesn't care how you are, they just say that to fill the silence. You say "I'm fine" or some such when you're really not, just so they'll shut up. Humans are very simple creatures.
2006-10-24 05:37:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its just to be polite. Its very hard to know exactly what to say to a person when a loved one has passed away. The first thing that comes to mind is "how are you doing?" not trying to ask a stupid question or anything its just usually the first thing out of our mouths after saying I'm sorry for your loss.
2006-10-24 08:25:18 · answer #2 · answered by Txfroggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my husband died, I was asked that a gazillion times. I think it's because people just don't know what else to say, and some are genuinely concerned. Actually, my response was usually "I'm doing okay". And I was, at the time. It's after everything is over that you fall apart.
2006-10-24 05:37:59 · answer #3 · answered by But Inside I'm Screaming 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funerals, the whole subject of death makes people very uncomfortable for obvious reasons. I think they ask this because they aren't really sure what to say and aren't aware of how inappropriate their question is at the time.
2006-10-24 05:39:19 · answer #4 · answered by Peace2All 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is appropriate to give condolences, but, many people do not know what to say, so a simple question is: How are you doing? They aren't being disrespectful, also, I'm sure only older people are asking that question.
2006-10-24 05:38:57 · answer #5 · answered by newyorkgal71 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the thing is there isn't really much else you can say it's a polite way of saying that if you need anyone to talk to I'm here.i guess when i lost my nan i had friends ask me the same thing and well its a bit annoying but you can see where they are coming from
2006-10-24 05:38:21 · answer #6 · answered by pearls3212 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its just as bad when they ask you at the Dr's, office waiting room ''how you doing?'' I answer I would be doing better if I wasn't here!
2006-10-24 05:47:34 · answer #7 · answered by Old man wrench 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question?
I do my best to avoid such situations....if the person who passed on is not immediate family don't expect me there....and if one is immediate family still do not expect me there....
Maybe they do not no what else to say?
2006-10-24 05:40:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're trying to be nice. Really when you think about it there's nothing else for them to say after, "sorry for your loss."
2006-10-24 05:37:46 · answer #9 · answered by dianee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a sign of respect.Is there anything I can do to help ease the pain you are going threw.
2006-10-24 05:39:20 · answer #10 · answered by szfr8l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋