My gfriend had a past full of promiscous dates, SERIOUS cheating. OK. She says she is in love with me. She told me her past. She told me many things of her past and i felt proud of her confidence. She said she wanted a family with me. We're both 29 y/old. She is a very grown up person and confessed me that she wanted a change in her life with me. No cheating, no lies, no secrets. BUT she keeps on tracking down her ex's on myspace once in a while (not big deal); she is extremely secretive with her email (if i enter into the room she minimize all the windows until i leave - big deal); she got HIGLY upset when i asked her about her password. I gave her my password to my email account 'cause i feel that i've nothing to hide so, if she feels any kind of doubts (humanly reasonable) she can get in. I can't say i've had any sign of cheating, but i don't understand that EXTREME PRIVACY POLICY. is that correct in a serious relationship?
2006-10-24 05:33:21 · 14 answers · asked by Jose 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
dear can i trust-she is not grown-up if she can't share[her e-mails].if she wants u to be her husband u should be her focus,not her ex's.how long can u live with her"extreme privacy"?after kids come into the picture?the longer u take to decide the harder it gets to do something about it.secrets create doubt,doubt creates mistrust,mistrust kills a relationship.u need to think ahead.think about everyone who could be hurt because of secrets including yourself.I'm 40 married 19yrs.marriage is love,TRUST,commitment,give and take.ex's arn't included.that's why they are called ex's.good luck!nascar8.
2006-10-24 08:00:22 · answer #1 · answered by nascar8 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i was you, I would be worried too and thats from my own personal actions. From the things you said she is doing when you enter the room, it does sound like she is hiding something from you. If she is hiding something and you keep having a doubt, the relationship is going to work out at all becaue nobody is trusting the other like they should be. Just sit her down and talk to her seriously about the whole thing. I wish you luck with it all.
2006-10-24 05:42:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a relationship, everyone is entitled to their own space. Thats no big deal. There are times when you don't want to share things with her. So you not knowing her e-mail password is no biggie, but her finding her ex's on my space is a big problem, why she looking for them, when she's with you, and her getting mad and pissed off, what is she really doing. think about player
2006-10-24 05:43:10 · answer #3 · answered by No Love 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1. No Trust=No Future.
#2. Secrets, lies, dishonesty=No Future
#3. You had to ask Yahoo Answers=No Future.
Need I say more?
2006-10-24 05:37:25 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that isn't a correct relationship. If you gave her your password and trust her with it and have nothing to hide then she should giv you hers and then you would be able to find out if she is cheating and lying to you. If I were you I would ask her why she won't give her password because you gave her yours. She isn't being honest with you probably if she refuses to give her password. Seriously, THAT ISN'T A TRUTHFULL RELATIONSHIP!!
2006-10-24 05:39:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be worried. I can understand her wanting privacy but going to that extreme is a bit much. Tell her how you feel.
2006-10-24 05:37:25 · answer #6 · answered by Missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to be gentle, but tell her that if she really wants to change her ways, she will have to be accountable for her actions to you. Ask her if she really wants to change the behaviour, because you can teach her how to do that- you are willing so far- but if she is unwilling to learn...in my opinion she will slack back to her old behaviours.
2006-10-24 05:40:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt trust the ***** iv been through **** like that srry but she a whore she is probly ******* those fagets and **** i say leav her as git a lie detectore test done on her or somthin
2006-10-24 06:11:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
See's trying to change slowly but surely.
2006-10-24 06:04:54 · answer #9 · answered by jana j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope I think that you should not trust her,, because she is almost you wife,, and when you become one there should not be one secret from you ,,, you should be her every thing her boyfriend ,,fiance,,, bestfriend,,, I think think that she is full of it..
2006-10-24 05:37:44 · answer #10 · answered by Airforcepink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋