I am a Leo female & I like a Scorpio/Saggi cusp male. Things are complex, need advice please.?

Question

Hello all,I am a Leo female & I like a Scorpio/Saggi cusp male. I am just out of a relationship a month ago he (pisces) freaked out and left and dated someone else within a wk - a major dealbreaker in my books.
I've known the scorp/saggi for a long time & always liked him, but was faithful so I kept him at a distance - although there was always the attraction.
He was single when I knew him but he had an ex he still cared about. However, recently he found out that she was lying to him all along and was not who she claimed to be. So he pretty much is over her as well.

Ok, so here we are.... both burnt but he claims to be over her. And I am slowly getting over my ex. He said a few weeks ago that he doesnt want a relationship right now: however, the last few weeks we've been getting closer - spending many hours tgoether sometimes. But he seems to blow hot/warm and cold/distant. Which confuses me. One day he'll spend hours.. the other day he'll barely speak.

Any advice is appreciated :)

More details:
We've been somewhat intimate and affectionate physically. But he does try to hold back sometimes. Of late he's been very receptive to snuggling and cuddling.
I guess being someone who is straightforward, I like to know where I stand.
He says things to me like: If I really let loose, do u think you can handle it? (3 times this last week - not sure if its purely sexual or more)
And wld ask me if he focused his attentions on me only.. would it be wasted? Etc.

I really can't tell whats on his mind. And he doesnt give straight answers. Yet during the occasion when I feel like giving up, he suddenly comes around and lavishes attention and affection. And he'll keep his distance again.

Extremely frustrating.. and I don't want to walk the same path like my ex.. not sure if I can handle another blow.

Answer 1

It is so hard to crack that Scorpio mysterious facade. It sounds to me like he has days when he can release the old flame and then there are other days she is on his mind a lot. When Scorps fall, they fall hard into an abyss of passion. If you really like this guy, I think you should back off of him until he is more steady in his reactions to you. It takes Scorpios a long time to get over a serious attachment, although they may APPEAR otherwise. Inside they are hurting, and hurting bad even though appearances may suggest different. It would help to know if he is a Scorpio or a Sag. Sag's are a bit more resilient about these sorts of things. Take it slow if he is technically a Scorp. Be a friend and confidante to him. One day he will pull himself out of the pity party to see you standing there with open arms. You will wonder what took him so long, and so will he. But when that happens you can bet he will be the passionate partner you dream of. I hope you will be able to handle it.
Good luck

Answer 2

I am Leo, My Lover is Scorpio

This is a fervent blend of personalities, with strong emotions and passions brewed up hot on a cosmic burner. Both of you are fixed personalities -- you're not given to changing your stance, so when you two don't see eye to eye, the dishes could start flying! Still, to watch Scorpio-Leo couples, you can't help but wonder if they deliberately egg one another on just to have the opportunity to get steamed up and overwrought and then fling themselves into the sweet lovemaking that inevitably follows.

The dynamic tension of both of you wrestling for control keeps this relationship teetering on the edge, but it appears that is exactly where you both prefer it -- it certainly keeps things exciting! The heat you two generate is so intense it could light a bonfire. Scorpio's power is more mysterious and emotional, with a wide and deep spectrum of feelings. You can't always know the extent of your Scorpio's feelings because those still waters run deep. Scorpios speak little and aren't likely to wear their hearts on their sleeves. They think this may compromise their position, at least in the beginning. Initially it is easier for your lover to feel your affection than the other way around.

You are ruled by the Sun, and your smile could melt polar ice caps! Scorpio's joint rulers are Mars, the warrior, and Pluto, lord of the underworld (and all things existing under the surface). This is why their feelings can't always be discerned, and it gives them their legendary mystery. When a Scorpio loves, he or she loves with his or her whole heart, an obsession you can only guess at. You will get a hint of it in that bewitching gaze Scorpios are known to give the ones they love. With Scorpio, everything is in the eyes, the mirror of the soul.

Neither of you is casual with anything -- especially not each other. Possessiveness is part of the territory, but since you both are that way, there isn't a problem. Once mated, Scorpio is yours for life, though you are a less possessive personality and might have trouble returning Scorpio's loyalty.

You, Leo, are extravagant and Scorpio is highly sophisticated when it comes to investments. Thank Heaven! Scorpio might be horrified at your spending, and beg you to keep to your budget, but the regal Lion is unhappy with limits. Leos think that cutbacks don't belong in a successful castle. In the end, water (Scorpio's element) is more powerful than fire (your element), and could prevail when tossed with force on Leo's flame.

Your relationship has to be handled with care because you are both such strong personalities. If you fall out of favor with one another, it could be a clash of the titans, complete with thunder and lightning. Try not to compete with each other, but instead, allow for each other's differences. Stubbornness on both sides will be the biggest danger. Deal with this effectively and you have a pairing with the strength of iron and flexibility of steel -- certainly stuff that is made to last. You have the possibility for a most powerful union -- make it work!

Answer 3

He is just not sure about your relationship yet. He doesn't want to lose you but he doesn't want a major committment either. Don't scare him off if you like him. But if you want to date other guys....then you better ease up on getting closer. Are you ready for another major relationship right now? Are you scared of losing this new guy? Or are you both just lonely and on the rebound? Be careful....go slow...

Answer 4

Sorry, I don't think horoscopes determine relationships' ups and downs. Just give both yourselves time, real time, to get over these other people. It's ok if he's not talkative some days. You surely have mood swings too. Just be patient, hard to do I know, but it pays off.

Answer 5

He is deciding whether to go full swing into this or not. Being hot and then cold...very typical of a Scorpion (I'm a Scorp). He wants to be in it, but is also trying to step back and think some more....

Answer 6

I am a Leo married to a Sagg. - best marriage ever. We have had our times of fighting, and my Sagg. tends to be distant sometimes, but the Leo in me has is able to bring the Sagg. out and show him it can be alright to do things.
The only issues we have are that the Leo in me tends to be hot-tempered but the Sagg. is a great one to smooth over my ruffled fur.

Answer 7

go to www.cainer.com and look up the love computer on the left of the screen. Its very interesting and will give you a lot of insight into the dynamics of each of your signs.

Answer 8

Get on top and ride him Leo. That should knock down 75% of your problem

Answer 9

The question is, why does she assume that about you? lol I think you should give her some space, dont nag on her head, cuz Taurus are not only possessive but stubborn too!.

Answer 10

Sorry, they don't go together b/c they're both drama queens. Read up on it. It's a disastrous relationship.