Today is my birthday. My man celebrated it on last Saturday because he had to go out of town to see his son on my day. He had very little to do as far as the party because he just brought a cake to a party that was going on for my bro-in-law. He gave me 100.00 to do my hair and purchase a shirt. This is all ok. The morning of my B-day he read me the card after I asked him to. he gave me roses in a cup of water I spilled. This messed up my morning... am I asking too much to still want to be treated special on my B-day. Just with sweetness and affection. I love him and did not complain but before you could not pay him to give me roses in a cup. He gave me the card and said well, it's not a new car but... He did purchase a new van for me just a month ago so I let that one go. I just want to feel special. his words were all wrong. and felt the things makes everything right. What do you think ???
2006-10-24 05:24:28 · 12 answers · asked by mita 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think he loves you just the same, but nobody can be perfect all the time...if he got you a van earlier in the month, roses(its the thought that counts), card, money to get hair done, b-day cake!!!! I think maybe its time to learn to appreciate the simple things in life...just hold him and thank him for being so loving and caring...forgive him for not being the prince charming he normally is, everyone blunders once in a while...he probably is beating himself up over it for not being the best he could...show him you love him, even when he isn't perfect. You may even see him perk up and be more affectionate since his worrying about the not so perfect b-day...
2006-10-24 05:34:39 · answer #1 · answered by Bedazzled101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He at least did something. The truth is you could have it way worse. You have to think that some guys just don't have the knack to think sentimentally. For those guys, you've gotta drops hints constantly, like if you're watching TV and someone does something super romantic, voice how you'd love to have that happen to you. If you do it enough, he'll get the idea of what you like, but just as much as you wnat him to praise you, you need to praise him more. This will make him feel good about you and also make him feel bad for not doing anything for you, thus increasing your chances of the subtle surprises you desire.
2006-10-24 12:29:24 · answer #2 · answered by dixieland delight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time you tell this story, leave out the part about him BUYING YOU A CAR because it makes you seem like a spoiled princess.
I agree that he seems a little distracted by his gifts, but remember that people come from different backgrounds, perhaps in his family birthdays were not such a big deal. You need to let him know that for you it IS a big deal. He can't read your mind.
2006-10-24 12:27:45 · answer #3 · answered by QuestionWyrm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will not try to be biased since I am a guy, but we need more info. I read what he does but what do yo do? Girls might like to be impressed and treated special like when you first start going out, but guys, or myself at least, like new things. I hate it when my wife does the same boring things all the time. I keep telling her why not try something new, that includes sexual things, the way she dresses, try new activities like darts, bowling, etc, whatever just something new. I have last my impressiveness with her also but mine is due to the lack of her trying new things. Since men do think about themselves first most of the time, I need to see you try to impress me with being more flirty, sexual, and adventurous with me, and then I will give you the gentleman that you need. I do admit though that we get tired after awhile with impressing girls and just say that we have you, why do I still have to impress. You have to make us want to impress you still. You give me what I need and you are taken care of.
2006-10-24 12:32:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he gave you money, he gave you roses, he gave you a card, he buys you a van (which this one had nothing to do for your b-day).....and yet you are still complaining.
look, i'm not sure what you are looking for....but my man cuddles me every night, tells me he loves me, doesn't expect me to pay the rent, the entertaiment bills, opens my door for me, and jokes and laughs with me everyday. He provides me with a car so i can transport myself everywhere i need to be. When he remembers my b-day, i am impressed.
to be perfectly honest, yes, you may complain a little bit. go ahead. act like a selfish brat and throw a tantrum. you'll get over it.
2006-10-24 12:39:56 · answer #5 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems okay cause there are a lot worse guys. Sometimes guys who forget your birthday or don't care. Men do not understand these things like flowers and birthday cards. Those are emotional and girly. So forgive him and learn to appreciate him.
2006-10-24 13:01:23 · answer #6 · answered by Mr Business 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop being so touchy!
read The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman
Ppl have different ways of expressing love
2006-10-24 12:27:06 · answer #7 · answered by san 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sureeee
2006-10-24 12:26:24 · answer #8 · answered by Greg S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well men don't tend to be all mushy to begin with. you seem pretty lucky that he even does the nice things that he's been doing. Very generous guy, so stop your whinning and nagging or he'll end up going somewhere else
2006-10-24 12:27:45 · answer #9 · answered by Ruth Less RN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest I think you've got it not bad. It sounds as though your boyfriend is quite good to you. Stop moaning, you would know all about it if you had a bad boyfriend!
2006-10-24 12:27:04 · answer #10 · answered by brooke 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋