My birthday is next week; I'll be 38 (presents to the left, nubile chubeete virgins for sacrifice on the right, no shoving, please *S*). I have not had a date since my girlfriend left me in 1991. I am afraid of approaching a woman that I might be attracted to because, more often than not, there is a guy there who has gotten there before me and can beat the living crap out of me. Any help out there for a guy so lonely?
2006-10-24 05:21:51 · 8 answers · asked by Sagistar 2 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Sorry- fifteen years of celibacy (not by choice) has dulled my senses when it comes to women. I experience the same problem you do-- if I had a magic answer I would surley share it.
Good luck and have a great day!!!
2006-10-24 05:25:34 · answer #1 · answered by Coo coo achoo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should try being friends with them and if you are afraid of getting beat up just lift some weight but be advised you wont get strong overnight. Basically if you want to get a girl just be nice to her make her feel attractive, and stay cool don't panic because if you do you are going to look like a weakling. Above all you have to show some backbone and leave that comfortable zone and if all else fails you got lefty and righty until you die. Have some girls on the side so if it does not work out with the one you are most interested in go to the next one in line, when and if you do find one and you think it can work you break up with the others.
2006-10-24 12:45:29 · answer #2 · answered by thaj a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join social clubs in your area. :-) Join interest groups. More often than not, there are loads of single women who join them as a means to meet guys (they usually say "people", but we know otherwise). :p
Interest courses are also handy for meeting loads of people. Don't join as a means to meet women though, join because you're interested in the group, and interested in really learning new things.
What are your interests? What do you like doing? What new things do you want to learn? Get out there and grab the world by the balls and get rolling. When you join interest classes, you are not only going to meet many new people, you'll also improve your own mind as a way of becoming more interesting. :-)
You might also want to check out the community centres in your area and see what they have to offer... there's also "night schools" which you can check out.
Join a gym as well, hang out in swimming pools, take nice long walks along the beach, ski clubs, roller blading, cycling groups, drama clubs, take interest in photography, gosh! there's loads of stuff you can do to occupy your time. There are also possible reading groups if that's what you'd like to explore. Learn to play an instrument, take part coffee houses!
You were only 23 when your gf left you? :-( Perhaps you need therapy to accept that it's over. That's a long time to not have been involved since then.
You do have a great sense of humour though. I laughed when I read what's in the brackets. :p Take to heart, many women like a good sense of humour.
By the way, early "Happy Birthday!" Best of luck to you. May all your wishes be granted!
2006-10-24 12:36:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The nonsense in your question about "nubile virgins" says it all. Start speaking like a man instead of a "Lounge Lizard."
2006-10-24 12:28:06 · answer #4 · answered by connor g 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's rough. BUT, you're not going to meet anyone sitting at home. You have to get out and meet people. Join a dating service (Beleive it or not, that's how I met my wife), join a bowling league, a travel club, a ski club...anything that will get you to meet new people. Who knows, you might even have some fun..Good luck !
2006-10-24 12:27:39 · answer #5 · answered by jim 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Approach them when their boyfriends aren't looking. ;) But seriously, where are you going that all the women are taken? There are tons of available women out there, most of them complaining about the lack of available men. Try a change of scenery, somewhere more single people go.
2006-10-24 12:30:33 · answer #6 · answered by francesfarmer 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It seems you've let an event totally traumatize you! I'd suggest maybe some therapy. Not saying that somethings wrng with you horribly, just that you may just keep moping over the same scenario over and over again and its affecting you!
2006-10-24 12:37:49 · answer #7 · answered by cawfeebeanz 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you live close, email me, well chat
2006-10-24 12:30:20 · answer #8 · answered by sammi girls mom 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋