My father and Mother divorced before I was 2. After the divorce, I rarely saw my father. He moved away when I was 12-13 and I didnt see or hear from him until I was 21. He came to our town and someone saw him and told my brother he was in town. My brother had to search him out, and then he brought him to my house. I saw him for maybe 30 minutes. I never saw him again. I just recieved a phone call last thursday from a friend of his saying that he had leukemia and would be dying very soon. He would like for me to come and see him. Do you think it would be good for me to see him...or just another disappointment?
2006-10-24 05:20:49 · 25 answers · asked by conf 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Go and see him, cause you will regret it later.
2006-10-24 05:24:16 · answer #1 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go see him. Even though you may not want to and you may have negative feelings about him, he is now a dying man and the least you can do for a dying man is grant his wish. After he passes away you don't have to worry about seeing him again. My dad was in a similar situation as you. His dad disowned him at 17 and it wasn't until 2 years ago he spoke to him again. He also had leukemia and ended up living 2 years with it. My mom forced my dad to go see him and the ended up having a good 2 years together. My dad just had to forget the past for a short while and do what he could for the present.
2006-10-24 05:25:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now the man is on his death bed and all the wrong he's done he feel's as if he's paying for it now. Honey go see him, you're a much better person by being the bigger person. He's on his way to his judgement he has alot to worry about after not taking care of children he brought into the world. Don't let anger control you, act instead with love because we all have a judgement day. Don't let this be one of the thing's you're judged for, and remember two wrongs have never made a right.
2006-10-24 05:33:26 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. Bossy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is on his deathbed and asking for you, I suggest you go and see me. Otherwise, later on in life, you WILL regret that you didn't go. I can relate to your antagonistic feelings toward your father, for I, too, come from a similar experience. But, as much as I have been disappointed by my father's actions, I would still go see him if he were dying soon. Be a sensitive humanitarian in this situation and not a heartless creep. Show him who is the bigger and more mature person here ... YOU!
2006-10-24 05:27:40 · answer #4 · answered by J C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this will be maybe your last chance to patch what eever feeling you have bottled up inside you. If you dont try to build a relationship now with what little time you have you may wonder what would of happen. Or carry a hatred inside for a while. You make the effort to build a relationship, if he doesn't work with you then you know you've tryied and that it was his lost if he didn't work to know you. Go see him...I wish you the best of luck!!!
2006-10-24 05:25:46 · answer #5 · answered by csabrinam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if he hasn't been in your life all this time, then I'd say move on, but I have to ask......do you have any love for your so called father?
I think if you did see him and he's dying....I'm sorry he is dying. But being a adult now, you have to ask yourself...is it worth getting my feelings hurt again? If I were you I'd do some soul searching....good luck!
2006-10-24 06:02:01 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it could just be a lie so some how you need to find out if it the truth are not. If it is not then you should go see him just to let him know how he has made you feel the past few years by not being there for you.
2006-10-24 05:26:57 · answer #7 · answered by EMTGIRL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course, go see him. Your old man is dying and whatever it turns out while you are there, let it be. At least you have done your part and there is no reason to look back. Think of it this way, if you decide not to go see him, and once he passes, will you regret it? The chance is: I bet you will. So go! (you are basically doing this for yourself...:)
2006-10-24 05:24:23 · answer #8 · answered by Mumbling Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send him a note saying that you would like to visit him for a little while if it is convenient for him. Then the ball is in his court. Do not feel guilty because he is the one who did not keep in touch and you were just a little kid when he left.
Then, if he says yes, you should go and talk about how you grew up. If he says no, that is his choice.
2006-10-24 05:31:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see him. If your father is dying you might regret a chance you had to clear the air.
2006-10-24 05:22:39 · answer #10 · answered by Scotsman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on where he is and your comfort level. Maybe find a way to communicate other than face to face. Email? Letter? Phone Call? and see how that goes, then decide if you should see him in person.
2006-10-24 05:24:41 · answer #11 · answered by <><><> 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋