i think is not fear or wrigth i dont undarstand why she wont change it, so because of this i decided to keep my last name but i feel enbarriesed when people asume my last name is the same as his and i have to tell them thats not my last name.
2006-10-24 05:13:24 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i still can get it but i guess im not being very undarstanding
2006-10-24 05:17:46 · update #1
He is your husband now, she is the ex and you're the one that he loves and is married to, so what she 's keeping his last name , its just a name. You have the man and that's all that matters so take his last name and be happy. The only thing that she have left is the name and memories that she wish she never had. Be the mature one in all of this and take your husbands name.
2006-10-24 05:35:08 · answer #1 · answered by BASHFUL 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She has a legal right to keep her last name. My aunt kept her married name when she divorced. A lot of women do that, especially professional women. Your husband can threaten all he wants, but they would not award him sole custody based on the fact that she won't change her last name. It is great that you have tried to be civil. Continue to smile and be gracious.. be the bigger person. She will always have contact with your husband. They have children together. Unfortunately, this is a fact that you knew when you decided to marry him and create another child. Sorry. Good Luck!
2016-05-22 07:14:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are LOTS of people with the same last name. I think you're being a little silly about this. It's no big deal!! My husband's ex kept his last name - when they got married her name changed. Just because they divorced doesn't change it back automatically. You've got the man - all she has is the name. Take it and run.
2006-10-24 05:34:09 · answer #3 · answered by susie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh please, don't be silly. Change your last name to his if that's what you want. Just always remember: you're the current Mrs. So-and-so, she's not.
Not the same, but similar. My husband's father died years ago, and his mother still insists on using 'Mrs.' even though she's been in a long-term relationship with another man for years now. When we married, I took my husband's last name, and the first time my mother-in-law and I were in the same room and someone called 'Mrs. so-and-so', we both said "Yes?" at the same time. She gave me an awfully dirty look. The person was speaking to me, anyway.
2006-10-24 05:19:19 · answer #4 · answered by Shayna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do they have children together? That could be the big reason. If not, its just simply easier to keep a name. If you ever take your husbands name, you will realize how hard it is to change everything. Accounts, drivers liscence, social security card, the list is endless. She has a legal right to keep that name and it really should be of no concern for you. Besides, nothing in life is fair, get over yourself and grow up.
2006-10-24 05:17:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Why does it matter? You could still have taken his name.
My mom kept my dad's last name when they divorced. She'd had that name for 17 years. She only changed it when she got re-married. The main reason, was that she didn't want to have to go through the whole hassle of paying to get her name changed, changing all her id, ect. Especially when she was going to have to re-do it in a couple of years when she got re-married. Had she stayed single, then she would have changed it back to her maiden name. A name is just that, a name it doesn't matter.
2006-10-24 05:20:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
They were married and now divorced. WHO CARES what her last name is. Sounds like you are playing a stupid game by keeping your name and not using your now husbands name. Who knows next year you 2 could be divorced, so what is a last name. GET OVER IT!!!! She is probably feeling pretty good knowing that she is getting to you HA HA
2006-10-24 06:45:41 · answer #7 · answered by Sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She legally has that name and maybe it is too costly to change her name...If she has children, she might be worried about how it would impact them....
What she chooses to do does not reflect on you.
You can still be married and keep your original name. Less hassle, changing documents etc.
This has no bearing on you and I wouldn't worry about what she is doing....
You are the wife.... that is all that matters.
2006-10-24 05:22:26 · answer #8 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is well within her right. My sister was divorced and kept her married name. Just because she won't change her name doesn't mean you can't take your husband's name. It sounds like you are making a mountain out of a mole hill.
2006-10-24 05:17:57 · answer #9 · answered by Sinned2471 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Don't obsess over this, she is not legally bound to change her name, and its also yours to take if you want it. Don't make important decisions about your name based on what she does. Do what you think is best for you and ignore her. It will make your life better in the long run.
2006-10-24 05:17:27 · answer #10 · answered by smartypants909 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋