Is anyone else irate over the Child support system?

Question

I never receive payments on time and cannot get thru to the system to complain. You get put on hold forever and then hung up on.

Answer 1

Please, at least you're getting payment. My child's father won't even show up to make the payments and they say it's nothing i can do...what's the purpose!!!! These men need to do more than make payments...they butt need to go to jail if they don't POINT BLANK!

Answer 2

Over a year and a half later, father still not making child support payments. I live in NY he is in GA try that one on for size!!! And for the two departments to even communicate with each other takes me threatening with a lawsuit for negligence!!!

Answer 3

It is a pain in the butt people have to rely on the state as a middle man at a cost to the taxpayer for responsibility that should be between two adults.. I should not have to pay to support a system that I don't use.. PERIOD.

Answer 4

Child support and going to jail...it's a bad joke! I have an ex-son-in-law Justin Hatten who has a warrant for his arrest and a $3500 bond on his head... lot of good when no one is looking for him in the state of Minnesota. He fled from Texas! No child support has been paid since April 2006. I guess we need to find out about the dead beat dad sites available and vent there!

Answer 5

Why don't you spend less time and energy on fighting with the child support system and spend that time and energy on getting yourself a good job and taking care of your children on your own.

Answer 6

You must be persistent and not give up keep calling until you get through. You owe it to your children. Don't try to do this your self. Get an attorney. Have him call your ex. That is what their for. Plus tell your ex if he continues to be a dead beat you will hall him in to court and sue for more money. Or go their your self and don't leave until you speak to someone.

Answer 7

It's grown from bad to worse over the last 30 years...just terrible.

Answer 8

For everyone's benefit there is a law that deals with confidentiality. With a phone call you can never be sure who it is you are talking to and that is pehaps why your calls have left you with such disappointment. They should have told you that due to the sensitive nature of your call and the confidentiality act they could not discuss any case over the phone with you. Even at thier office you would be required to show identification so that they know who you are for certain.
Believe it or not the child support system was developed to assist, help, and protect the children by helping them get their basic needs met. The system can and will work for you too but you must do things appropriately according to "the system". Phone calls unfortunately are not the way to go about requesting assistance of any sort because there is no paper trail other than the phone log. When and if you do call someone for any issue on child support, you must be ready to document everything. The number you called, the time, who you talk to, what was asked, what was answered and even if you get hung up on, document it all for your records and keep them for your evidence to use when filing a complaint against "the system". Then you know you can not fight city hall right but evidence is necessary.
The best thing to do is sent the friend of the court a letter stating your situation. Give them up to 14 days to come up with a solution for you and request a written responce (evidence). If this solution is unsatisfactory to meet your needs and if you have already tried the recommended solution. Send a letter to the your local state court. Be sure to put your divorce court case number as RE: above Dear Court Clerk. In the letter request a hearing for wages will be withheld due to lack of payment or insufficient payments as he/she is not complying with the court order as stated. You may also request that the child support payments be sent to the Friend of the Courts office. They can see first hand what you are experiencing and document it all for you. ABOVE ALL GET IT IN WRITING. Lawyers, The Friend of The Court, Judges, Social Services, who ever you have to deal with will need documentation. THE BURDEN OF PROOF IS UPON YOU. Don't sit back and wait for anything. If you are in need of immediate assistance, take your documented support payment history, your income statements, birth records and social security cards, utility bills, and house or rent payment documentation to the local state social services and apply for assistance. If you qualify they will help you get your needs met for the children and they will pursue recap for you. Be strong, be persistant, be courteous, and above all be there for your children. Don't worry them with your problems, they have thier own with living with a single parent who at times may be stressed out.
I divorced and did not ask for child support because I did not want to deal with such matters but I reciently went to the court myself requesting child support and the court was in favor. I know what it is like to struggle.
My grown sons have to pay child support for thier children. I and my sons see to that the money is not always put to good use for the children. So try to use good ethics as this to is beneficial and rewarding for those that pay. Knowing that their children are being well taken care is on their minds always. I know the amount of child support awarded to seems extreamly high. After all it did take two to divorce in the first place, why should the one who leaves have to make life just as comfortable as if they were still there when they have to pay their own living expences too? This causes very real and serious problems for those having to pay child support. They are HUMAN BEINGS too living without the comfort of knowing exactly what the conditions thier children are having to endure and knowing from past experience that things may not always be under the very best of conditions. Hostility towards them just inforces their insecurities making it even harder for them to do what they need to do to get those support payments made. Let your X know too that you understand money problems and let him/her know that partial payment is better than no payment but you need to receive some money at the same time each month. A little is better than none at all.
I know to that even with the Friend of the Court being involved those payments may still be late because it takes at least a week for them to process the payment and get it sent to you. That is why requesting that wages be withheld is nearly a necessity and alway the best road to take. YOU need to request this in writing to the court and possibly attend a court hearing on the matter.
Give your kids plenty of LOVE and have FUN with them. They will be grown before you know it