I care about her a lot and we're kind of still dating, but we won't get that serious until she quits. She doesn't have a hard life or anything! She's bout to get 2 college degrees, her parents pay for everything for her and yet she won't quit, help!
2006-10-24 05:11:53 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
maybe she likes the attention or the money if she wont stop for u then its not worth trying to convince her not to be doing that shes gonna have to find out for herself if this is the life she wants to live or not...trust me on this u can tell someone to stop doing whatever there doing but if they like it and its fun to them nobody will ever change there mind otherwise! just move on let her go thru this phase and once it passes she will realize what she missed out on and how degrading she made herslef out to be!
2006-10-24 05:15:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding? She's an EX-girlfriend, and you are wanting to dominate the course of her life? You really never had that right when she was the CURRENT girlfriend. Here is some good advice. When you find yourself involved with a person whose habits or lifestyle are not to your liking, don't t ry to re-make that person to suit your wishes; move on and find somebody whom you feel compatible with because that is the way that person is naturally. You might think this g al is on the wrong road..... on a path to her own moral destruction. Maybe so. But she is a full-grown, self-determining adult and, legally, you have no more right of control over her now than her own parents have. No matter how fond of her you are, relationshipwise you are obviously not on the same page - more like not even the same book.. Stay friends, if that is OK for her as well as you, but, beyond that you need to just let her alone to exercise her f ree and lawful right to do her own thing.
2006-10-24 07:39:03 · answer #2 · answered by sharmel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like everybody said she likes the attention.....but I'll add on to this and tell you what the future holds for this girl.....She's about to get two college degrees "Big Deal" .....you know what, she's making more money stripping than she ever will with those two diplomas, not to mention the overtime money she could make when she's not stripping...if you know what I mean, and I'll go as far to say she won't even use those college degree's because they're Just a cover to please mom and dad......Attention + Big Money = Get a new girlfriend.........she is not going to quit.......
2006-10-24 06:13:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be with her and stand by her.. just don't give up on her because then she will find it even more difficult to get out of what she's doing. Stand by her. Maybe talk to her, ask her why she has to do it? All the best! But I think being there for your ex-girlfriend is very important at this period...
2006-10-24 06:29:23 · answer #4 · answered by Mapleleaves 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sure have your hands full. I have never seen a relationship work out with a stripper. they just have a very different way of looking at things after being paid for such things. I would just enjoy the ride and not expect much out of the relationship. Even after she gets her two degrees and becomes a "model citizen", she will still have the stripper mentallity for decades. sorry.
2006-10-24 05:22:14 · answer #5 · answered by Tom B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite her to go to a Bible believing and teaching church where she can experience the love of Jesus. Only He can transform her life into something better if you allow Him to do it. Your preaching at her, etc. probably won't do a thing except make her hate you. The best thing is to pray for her and let Jesus and the Holy Spirit take over. He knows the best way to convince her that she needs to change.
2006-10-24 05:20:02 · answer #6 · answered by Captain Cupcake 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, she's an exgirlfriend for a reason. Take all that energy and put it towards someone who has a different career goal. You can't change people into what you want them to be. If you can't accept this part of her then move on.
2006-10-24 05:16:05 · answer #7 · answered by luvhurts004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to have to agree with the last two answers - She probably likes the attention. You're not going to be able to MAKE her quit. She is going to have to WANT to quit herself.
2006-10-24 05:16:05 · answer #8 · answered by Renee S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one if you aren't that serious about her then you cant get her to stop. But you should tell her that you really care about her and what can you do to help her to stop because it really scares you when she does it..
2006-10-24 05:16:50 · answer #9 · answered by EMTGIRL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She won't dude. Get over it, If you don't want to be a with a stripper you should probably just let her go.
2006-10-24 05:14:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋