im confused ? was i assaulted or rape?

Question

i have asked this ques in another section . i need to hear response before something abt it . thanks

i know sounds like a dumb thing but i'm feeling kinda uneasy and confused.

i have no sexual experience and i was not sure if i was actually rape or assaulted. how do i do a check up on myself without going to the doctor. it would be embarassing

was about a week ago. was at a guy's friend house (close know each other 7 years)was at his house . a normal thing for both of us to hang around. that day i had a terrible migrane (i have migraines quite often) and i donoe i sort of blocked out?

cant remember what happen when i woke up, i had this weird feeling below (something like vaginal pain?)i really am not sure if anything happened as: -

1.my clothes were still intact but my panties was inside out - possible that i wore it wrongly haha
2.he is my trusted friend i dont think he would actually do it
3.the thing that made me uneasy was there was like finger scratches at my lower back?

i donoe if checking and missing my period is accurate as i have irregular cycles even though im 25
should i ask him . this is really buggin me . plz help what should i do ..

p.s: i know it sounds like the story is all over the place. but i really cant remember what actually happened..

Answer 1

I know you don't want to, but you need to be examined by a doctor - and soon. If your "friend" did anything to you while you were blacked out from the mirgraine then, it's sexual assult and he's NOT your friend. You need answers and you won't find them here. What if you're pregnant? or get an STD? Go to the doctor.

Answer 2

Since you have known this guy for 7 years as a friend you should know him better than us. Is he that type? Have you always felt like he liked you more than a friend? What do others think about him? Does he have a girlfriend?

First of all assult is someone making you do something you dont want to physically or hitting you. If sex did not take place it is assult. When sex is part of the act it is sexual abuse or rape (when without your permission).

You can no longer go to the cops about it as you have no proof. When a person is raped they need to get checked within 24 hrs and before they clean themselves. The cops do a rape kit to check for semen. So that is out at this point.

Have you ever blacked out from a migraine before? I used to get bad mirgraines and never ever blacked out, just slept, but would wake if someone touched me. Is this common for you? If not could he have given you a drug in a drink? Guys will do this if they want to take advantage of a girl sexually. And some of the drugs they give can cause a headache.

If you had sex with him you would feel sore. If your private area feels at all different it was probably sex. Mirgraines do not cause your genitals to feel painful or different.

I think you need to talk to him in a SAFE place. Not alone in case he gets angry or upset in any way. Ask him straight out if he had sex with you. Just make it casual. Like I need to know. Use your instinct and see how he reacts. You should be able to tell right away. If you even think he did something like this to you STAY AWAY FROM HIM. He is devious and not to be trusted.

Answer 3

if it happened a week ago the only evidence a doctor would find is vaginal tear. You could have a std or be pregnant. You could go to the health clinic to be examined. They can tell you whether or not your hymen has been broken and if you've had anything happen. As far as if it did happen... you will have hard time convincing law enforcement to do anything about it without solid proof. So the best thing to do is if you feel uncomfortable around your male friend now, don't go around him anymore. He's no friend if he has taken advantage of you.

Answer 4

The evidence is suggestive. Never be afraid to put your thoughts on the table. You have legitimate concerns. However, If he did do anything immoral, then he will lie to you about it, because he already crossed the line. People who have lied all there lives are masters of hiding it, so you must rely on intuition more than anything else. I think on an issue such as this that when you look him in the eye and have a conversation, your gut instinct will tell you if he is lying or not. If he is innocent he will want you to understand him, if not he will create a smoke screen.

Answer 5

You were possibly drugged and that's why you passed out. The only way to be sure is to go to the doctor. Find a female if you think that would make you feel more easy. When you have evidence for or against sexual assault, then you can take it further. See a social worker

Answer 6

I am afraid to tell you that you have been drugged and raped! At this point, you should not feel embarassing. Put that thought aside because it is a serious case and your mental and physical health are at the stake. It is more embarassing if you let this guy free and not knowing what has happened to you that night!
If I were you, I would tell someone (real close friend or family member) you can trust /tell them the whole stories rather than living in doubts. Then get the doctor to examine you and if it is comfirmed that he raped you, you should report it to the authority! I know you trust him but the physical evidence shows otherwise that it is more than a casual date. Get yourself help!
Goodluck.

Answer 7

You should have gone to the Doctor immediately.Sounds like you might have been drugged.As sad as it sounds,if you want to be sure,set up a similar situation with a remote cam or microphone and see what happens.Find someone you can trust who will prevent you from being raped,but see what he does.If he did it once he will do it again if the opportunity presents itself.Have him arrested if he did,he will hurt someone else before long.Take a pregnancy test as well.Immediately.

Answer 8

you should really go to a doctor and get it check before doing anything else. If the results come out something that you didnt want to happen. Then that could be considered as rape. Consult a lawyer

Answer 9

Is your friend acting different at all? If you've never had sex and he did try to rape you, you probably would have felt it and roused awake, unless you had taken pain pills. In that case, you oughta go to the doctor and get checked out. They'll probable do a rape kit and urine pregnancy. No one will ever have to know you went, just you and your doctor. If he's your friend and you know him that well, when you talk to him, you should know if something is up.

Answer 10

without a doubt you should be heading to a doctor. being embarrassed is the least of your worries, you could have an std, be pregnant... whether or not he is your trusted friend, go to the doctor, only a doc can tell you if there are absolute signs of sexual intercourse.