How do I become more masculine?

Question

I am a 26yo guy and I feel like I am not masculine enough. I didn't really play sports in school and my dad way kinda of a coach potato. My bigest role model was my mom. Even though I'm a great person I don't feel like I am masculine enough. Qualities like being strong, a provider, and laid back are somewhat foreign to me. How do I become more masculine?

Answer 1

Masculinity is a really vague ideal. If you didn't have a strong male role model it's understandable that you may want to work out what it means to be a man, not to be confused with being masculine. I had a very strong female role model growing up and tended to play individual sports although was not overly sporty and had aother interests so I didn't get to experience males together as a group as much either. All I can suggest is accept yourself as normal (which you are) and think about what areas you want to improve in your life because you want to be better in that area not because you should be better in that area. One of the things I did was find some thing I was interested in and had a good percentage of guys involved and join in (club or something). Watch and learn, incorporate what you like and reject what you don't. Most of all be you. Mid twenties can be rougher than people expect. It gets easier.

Answer 2

I know what you mean, while I was growing up I lived in the estrogen (sp) pool. All my friends and family were mainly females! After the death of my father @ age 5, most of my dad's side moved away from the place we all lived around. I ended up being the only male.
My older sister and her friends were all girls, my so called cousin (grew up together) all were girls. You get the idea. It does suck not having a male around to show you the ropes, but to be more masculine is just being yourself. Just because we look up to females doesnt mean we are not masculine as the next male. If you're a great person as you say, then dont worry about masculinity. Being a provider, you should already know how to do that (watching your mom do her daily routines). Being laid back is just a state of you being relaxed while near your friends or by yourself. Your qualitites of being strong isnt always physical appearance, but it can be your mental qualities.

Hope this helps!

Answer 3

Being masculine is in the eye of the beholder. You may not feel very masculine, but someone else does. I promise. The only way is to work-out, get out of the house, play some sports, do things guys would do and see if that helps. Really the only person that can tell you how to be more masculine is yourself. Only you know what your qualities are and only you can do anything to change them. Sorry if this isn't much help.

Answer 4

To even ask this question shows what kind of guy you are...one every woman wants. Sports don't make you masculine...neither does being strong, laid back etc...qualities like having integrity and compassion make you masculine.

Answer 5

Don't do anything! Women love a softer side. Just because your mom was your role model (which a LOT of men had/have) doesn't mean you aren't masculine. You don't have to be a big brute. I have 2 nephews who didn't play sports and either did their father. One is a director (yes, movies) and one is an IT genius. And BOTH got great wives (and yes, they are babes.)

Answer 6

masculinity is in the eye of the beholder. I mean look at all these women who try to emulate men who are lesbians. They take it to the extreme and adopt the worst attributes a man could have. Not all lesbians but just the ones who are of the diesel nature.

Answer 7

What is the difference between being a good man, being Masculine or being macho. Just be you, be a good man.

Answer 8

Wear dress kneesocks and shorts.

Answer 9

dont worry about it just be urself. i personally like guys with a soft side not like jock guys