Recently I've been seeing this guy. I'm 16 and he's 20. He likes me a lot and I like him too. The first time we met we hadn't even kissed yet, and he was touching me all over but he gave me a lovebite. The morning after my dad saw it and went mad, but my mum didn't mind, she just said don't come home with it again. The only thing is the guy seems only to want to have sex with me and that's it. I went to his flat a few days ago and we started kissing passionately on his sofa then he fingered me. He wanted sex then but I refused because he said he didn't have any condoms. I do like him but if sex is all he wants then I'm not so sure. My mum is getting really worried now saying I should go on the Pill, the guy is no good, age difference etc.
Should I be a good girl and listen or keep seeing the guy and let him have his way with me??
2006-10-24 05:03:52 · 17 answers · asked by bubbly_child 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have to say, the guy doesn't sound decent at all, and also I must admit that parents are actually right most of the time whether you like it or not.
Listen to your parents, stay away from the bloke, he's no good if he can't wait.
Be selfconfident and have your pride, don't let him take advantage when you're not ready.
2006-10-24 05:11:06 · answer #1 · answered by nicoled2408 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like me when I was 16. I was seeing a man alot older than me..He was 26 and I was 16...My mom hated it, But I liked him So much. At first that was all it seemed he wanted from me too, and Belive me when I tell you I went through hell with him, I got pregnant at 16 too and had the baby...
But I am still with him after all those years...It hasn't been all great, But every relationship has it's up's and down's..I will tell you this though..If I could go back and change the past.I would...I would have waited to have sex...Now days you have too..Cause everybody is sleeping around with each other..It's scary..You don't want to catch something you can never get rid of...Condom's are not 100% accurate..But I would listen to your parent's advice they know...Even though your hormones are gonna be all over...Just try to maintain ok...Good Luck
2006-10-24 05:14:49 · answer #2 · answered by mmarie1221 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not worth your time. Most 20 year olds try to date younger girls because they know younger girls could be easy to convince them to have sex because they feel they have to impress the guy. Trust me i am 17 and i dated two 20 year olds and well sex is all they talked about. So get out of that relationship now before you do something you will regret. Wait to have sex with a guy who will take things slow and doesnt make moves on you right away. Good Luck!
2006-10-24 05:09:52 · answer #3 · answered by crazybayb20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like most guys (myself included) he does obviously want to get into your panties (he might want more than that though). The only question should be do you want him down there. If you do go for it (with protection of course) if not tell him to take a long walk off a short pier.
Your the only one who can decide whether to go on the pill or not. There can be quite a few side effects when taking the pill(see your GP for details).
2006-10-24 05:19:35 · answer #4 · answered by HeYou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could write a book about scum bags like that! believe me all like a bad boy but the best thing for you to do when it comes down to him just wanting sex off you is to F*uck him off he will hurt you, break your heart, and take your innocence away, he will make you feel used, you are too much of a young lady to put your self through being used, and if he just want sex with you, who else does he just want sex with? men like that don't just sleep with one girl I KNOW, so you might even catch something!!
Please , please , please, mum is always right, you might not feel like it sometimes, but you will know if your wiv the right man, because mum won't raise the alarms!
Don't forget your mum knows the signs, she was yor age too once.
Good luck hun. Please be carfeul. Sex is not everything.
2006-10-24 05:11:31 · answer #5 · answered by Lolly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well how do you feel about it. i mean if he is only interested in sex, sounds like you want more. I would keep some distance, look for someone who wants something similar from the relationship to you.
If you just go ahead and do what this guy wants, you make just end up feeling used and abused.
2006-10-24 05:09:13 · answer #6 · answered by jess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what your mum says. and yes all men want sex!!! he is too old for you anyway and is probable really lame that is why he has to go out with 16yr olods when he is 20. Loser !!!!
he is trying to take advantage of you because you are so much younger than him!!!
2006-10-24 05:33:45 · answer #7 · answered by Fox Hunter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship is not only basic on sex.(2) I think he is using you for it.ask your self what did you all ever did together that was fun,were did he ever take that was nice.I think you should leave him.you have a long life ahead of you,and they are many more guys that you will meet.
2006-10-24 05:12:20 · answer #8 · answered by Cherry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u`ll be making a big mistake if u have sex wiv him. it sounds like thats all he`s after. please do urself a big favour and listen to ur mum. ur only young and u have a lot of living to do. if he got u pregnant that`ll mean u`ll be missing out on the very best years of ur life. i really hope wot i said helps u
2006-10-24 09:43:11 · answer #9 · answered by graham f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do realize this guy could go to jail for this right? it's called statutory rape! seems like your mom is someone you really need to talk to. two years is not that long of a wait. and why would you want to be with a pediphile anyway?
2006-10-24 05:09:18 · answer #10 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋