2006-10-24 04:57:45 · 17 answers · asked by Mr. Sky 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Wow, what a question... I was definitely jealous in my 2nd and 3rd marriage... why... fear of loss... so what is that... yes, self-love I suppose, right... to not want to lose someone because you don't want to suffer is in fact self-love... true love is wanting a person to be happy regardess of your own happiness... i think it was after my 3rd marriage that and going through that separation that I started to actually feel empathy for what Susan was going through and finally at the end I wanted her to be happy even knowing that meant we would not be together
2006-10-24 08:36:32 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is an emotion just like being angry, sad or happy. It's triggered by uncertainties or threatening situations that you feel might rob you of what it is you are protecting. In all actuality, it's nothing more than your own insecurities worrying that this threat will play out. To avoid this eating you up, recognize when you become jealous and try thinking of something else that pulls out a more positive emotion like happiness.
ex: you like someone and someone else is hitting on them. you feel the emotions of rage and jealousy. When you know you feel this way stop and think of a good time you had with your friends the other night to bring out an emotion of happiness.
2006-10-24 18:44:59 · answer #2 · answered by sweet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is just a trait of personality. It can relate to love (both self and true--among others), but it is not necessarily peculiar to love, in general.
Now, whether jealousy is related to the ego and people who tend to be more egotistical--this is hard to justify, since it depends on the many surrounding circumstances as to why jealousy exsists, and what it is pertaining to. I could be jealous that my girlfriend is going out with a guy--even though I don't like the guy--just that she is dating and I am not. Or, I could be jealous of one person being allowed to eat when I and many others are starving---and could have been fed, as well.
2006-10-24 12:03:23 · answer #3 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Jealousy is a form of insecurity. It's self-doubt, not self-love.
2006-10-24 11:59:25 · answer #4 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Neither Basically it's insecurity and whispers of self loathing due to inability to stabilize a relationship. Lack of knowing generates the jealousy not for the one who is coveted but for ones lack of ability to grasp it and hold on........
2006-10-24 12:44:09 · answer #5 · answered by silhouette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy comes from self doubt and insecurity. It may also come from projecting your expectations and feelings of guilt onto others. If you have or are considering cheating on another you may project those feelings onto that person to throw the scent so to speak.
2006-10-24 12:02:26 · answer #6 · answered by sandgoanna 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Jealousy comes from insecurity
2006-10-24 11:59:12 · answer #7 · answered by Jenyfer C 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Jealousy comes from a person who thinks they might not be able to hold on to the person they are jealous of, low self-esteem maybe. The problem lies within the jealous person, not within the one they are jealous of.
2006-10-24 12:18:12 · answer #8 · answered by Pale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is driven by that person being insecure with themselves, not self love.
2006-10-24 12:00:27 · answer #9 · answered by D 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it comes from insecurity, if I am not secure in myself and don't think I am worth the relationship then I don't have any self-love and if I don't have any self-love then I can't have true love. Simple question- complicated answer!
2006-10-24 12:02:02 · answer #10 · answered by DC 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋