Okay my grandmother is 98.. She is in a nursing home because her son ( bobby) put her there because she fell. Didnt hurt her or nothing. They were just tired of cooking and cleaning for her. She is in her right mind totally! She wont eat because she is dpressed and wants to die at home. The power of attorney is my dad, his brother ( bobby) and His sister ( Faye) They live 5 feet from her house for real. Anyways... Bobby put my grandmothers house in his wifes name, which isnt supposed to be. It is to be deived between the three kids. My dad bobby and faye. Bobby will not let her go in her house when we take her there. He yells at her and tells her she isnt sick ect. My dad is going to talk with a lawyer today. But he does need some suggestions on things to do... or things to ask the lawyer. She is on medicare, Do they pay for an all day care taker? Please I need some suggestions we all would be very thankful.
2006-10-24 04:54:37 · 15 answers · asked by glhauser2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
unfortunately, that happens all the time. If she is in her right mind, she can have the power of attorney revoked. There is usually an elderly abuse association that will help with an older person being taken advantage of.
2006-10-24 05:00:42 · answer #1 · answered by Tom B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let Bobby know you are taking all your grandmother posessions and selling them because the nursing house is way to expensive and he will get nothing for inheretance. (even though it isn't true, but it could be). If you father has power of attorney then he can take everything from bobby and Faye if is isn't writen down in the will. He can even take his mother out of the home. It sounds like your father is doing the right thing going to see a lawyer. The lawyer will come up with all the questions just make sure you have all the paper work to show him. Good luck!
2006-10-24 04:59:21 · answer #2 · answered by tjnw79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Caring for an elderly relative is very time consuming,and requires a great deal of patience.Make sure you have enough help to properly care for her.Most states provide some assistance,visiting nurse's and CNA's,but not full time.I'd be more worried about Bobby,check with the lawyer to see if you can break the power of attorney.It is difficult but not impossible.Depends a lot on her state of mind when it was granted,and her wishes as well.If there is no will,or the house was transferred to avoid medical expenses,you are in trouble.If not look into a deed of quiet tenancy.There are many benefits in your situation.
2006-10-24 05:02:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow what can i say? don't all these people who have power of attorney have to make choices collectively? i think that your dad needs to find a way to get your grandma to her home because elderly people only deteriorate when they are placed in a facility and yes i do believe that you can get medicare to pay to have meals delivered and to have someone come clean and take care of your grandmas personal care im not sure of the process but i used to take care of elderly people as my job so it can be done maybe this lawyer will know how to get all this taken care of...if i were your dad i would definitely just go to the lawyer with all the facts and let him know what (bobby) is doing illegally or against everyones will and see how this can be quickly corrected for grandmas sake because she didn't live and love all of you including (bobby) just to be treated this way in the end
2006-10-24 05:08:32 · answer #4 · answered by ELIZY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very touchy and sad situation. I went through the exact same thing with my grandmother at 99. She just starved herself to death because her children acted horribly and selfishly just like this.
He needs to find a good attorney that specializes in situations like this. Also, unless he was given a full legal right to do so, bobby should not have been able to just put the house in his wifes name without some sort of approval from your grandmother or the other siblings. Unless he owns the house or part of it.
A good attorney will recognize the sensitivity of the situation and be able to ask the right questions of your father. But he must first know what he wants to do. He should also discuss with her doctor.
2006-10-24 05:08:02 · answer #5 · answered by favrd1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very blessed that you father is power of attorney...You have many options here. There are agenencies that will make daily visits with your grandmother, to help her with personal care, home care, and even run errands for her! Along with this help, which by the way is paid for by medicare, you folks can pull together to make sure she is not left alone. Your father will need a Dr., not necessarily the one she has now, to say she is well enough to be at home..I just recently went through this with my father, and sadly, i am not the one with the papers. I had to see him give up his home and independence to go into a facility..Get Granny home, by all means necessary. She should spend her last days happy and near her loved ones! Your father is wise to seek an attorney, but he should not endure any problems..Best of luck to you all!
2006-10-24 05:01:08 · answer #6 · answered by janet r 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all if Grandma is in her right mind then she needs to seek out a lawyer or file charges against Bobby he can't keep her out of her house or sign it over to any one else.
Secondly does grandma have a will? If so she may want to consider revising whom she has made the executive of her will.
2006-10-24 05:01:24 · answer #7 · answered by Trixie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that your GM is going through this. My suggestion is too go and tell the attorney everything that is going on just like you did here with this question. Maybe you can go with him to the attorney. It's obvious that parts of your family are being very malicious and greedy.
Good Luck
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2006-10-24 05:00:18 · answer #8 · answered by phoenix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has a will you had better find it........
The lawyer can answer most of your questions.
Dad has the power!
Ask her what she wants to do about Bobby, it's still her home.
2006-10-24 04:59:21 · answer #9 · answered by Krazykraut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A woman once said that it never ceased to amaze her how one mama can take care of ten kids, but ten kids couldn't take care of one mama. What you are describing is abuse of the elderly and I wish your father all the best luck. He needs to be able to prove that she is of sound mind, that would include going before a judge. Then, if it were up to me, I would file charges against the relatives that have done this to her. You and your father need to be commended for taking a stand for her.
2006-10-24 05:30:18 · answer #10 · answered by pupcake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋