Here's the problem: my boyfriend and i have been together for 4 years off and on. When we were off, he didn't waste time being single, he went out with lots of girls. I probably only dated about 2 guys so he was obviously the go-getter of meeting girls. Anyway now we're back together for good, and I still have jealousy problems. Recently I found that he texted a female friend (who i have met several times) where she flirted with him and told him she'd model him fishnets in a jokingly way and it seemed he was flirting back. I confronted him and he said adamantly that his co-worker wrote it, and i don;t know if i should believe him because his immature co-workers (30 year olds with frat boy mentality) has texted me under his name. I went psycho last night and was balling, and he says he doesn't know how to deal with my jealousy problems. I'm willing to talk it out and work it out because i know he wouldn't cheat on me, so how do i prove it? He already thinks i am just super jealous
2006-10-24 04:45:17 · 8 answers · asked by becky l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you shouldnt have to prove anything, there being a jerk
2006-10-24 04:47:17 · answer #1 · answered by Juleette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is a hard issue. What you have to do is decide whether or not you really trust him. If you do then you just have to prove it. If there is an occasion where this happens again just jokingly say-I guess frat idiot is up to his old tricks again. Men are different creatures than us and sometimes do not see things the way we do. He could feel like since you only dated two guys you felt way more for both of them than he did for any of the girls he went out with. If you have no doubts about his commitment and love then just tell him that. He will see the effort that you put in. Even though he may not comment on it he will see it.
2006-10-24 04:50:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Frankly I don't think that you will get over it. If I was you, I would move on. Being jealous all the time is stressful! And it makes the other person sick of being around you! If you are in a negative situation...It's not good!
2006-10-24 04:51:48 · answer #3 · answered by Child of God 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl actions speak louder than words. Show him you are not jealous and don't lie. If your man was really gonna cheat on you he would have already done it....right? Prove to him that you trust him and he will trust you back and see that you are not jealous.
2006-10-24 04:51:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i used to be SUPER jealous when my boyfriend and I first got together. like i wouldn't want him to hang around girls if i wasn't there. but then when we moved in together and i saw what our life was going to be like, my jealously took a nosedive. not that i don't get jealous from time to time, but i think once you are completely comfortable with someone and your relationship, some things just don't bother you anymore. good luck with your boyfriend, hope this helps.
2006-10-24 04:58:35 · answer #5 · answered by Katy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl first of all your jealousy is not going to improve this guy already messed you up mentally, and about him flirting with that girl its not his friend that text messaged her it was him. trust me girl I dont want you to start thinking wrong but Im only telling you the truth. and if you keep everthing inside girl your going to get sick. once you start loving yourself again your going to start thinking positive because everytime he does something you feel less about yourself. thats all I can say
god bless
2006-10-24 04:53:58 · answer #6 · answered by PRI 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't!!! You can change your ways and act like you're not jealous but you will always be jealous - it is in you. I used to be obviously jealous but now I keep it on the down low. Do not let my emotions show. Let is slide...
2006-10-24 04:48:34 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you know he wouldn't cheat on you y get so jealous? you answered your own ?. he wont cheat on you!
2006-10-24 04:48:54 · answer #8 · answered by jenn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋