me and my girlfriend, of over 2 years now, both of us deeply in love, in fact we are about to be engaged;meaning i'm about to propose, are having sexual problems. about a year ago we use to do sexual activities almost every day then we started having relationship problems. we started to argue and not get along, only to find out what we were arguing abut was easily fixed, hence us being happier now then we ever was. however, when we split up and seen other people, sadly to see we each slept with another person just to try to rebound off of the hard break up. it was sex for ALL the WRONG reasons. happy to say we both realized what we done was wrong and we couldnt stand to be without each other and after about 1 month we got back 2gether and worked everything out. since then we havent been happier and we have one of the best relaionships there is. however since this we cant seem to have sex with each other b/c we hate seeing each other w/ someone else..? what can i or we do to fix this?
2006-10-24 04:31:31 · 15 answers · asked by p_engr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I used to do this:
I had the arrangement with my ex to visit this particular pub that we had never been to.
We would go for a make-over and appear in front of each other in the best fashion.
I would pick her up and we would check into a hotel and have the wildest and craziest sex.
We would do this once a month and that was the only time we had sex and unwind from work. It was fun.
Try it. It might just work for you.
Cheers!
2006-10-24 04:35:46 · answer #1 · answered by Geo C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up on this. It sounds like yall are meant to be together. I think it'll just take some time for you both to get over it. When my ex cheated on me, I had a hard time getting over it, but I did after about a month or so. You just need to make love. let all those other things go, and just make love. Forget about everything else. You two have been thru a tough time and yet you are still together.
2006-10-24 04:38:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you find out, let me know. I've been dealing with that issue for years. My husband cheated on me and I took him back. From that point until the moment I left him, I had to deal with mentally seeing him having sex with someone else. Maybe you can try getting counseling before getting married. That will give both of you a chance to heal your wounds.
2006-10-24 04:36:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well brandon, since im your girlfriend, dont you think you should come to ME with these questions?
is it so wrong for me to NOT want to have sex anymore because maybe i have grown up and feel it would be more special after we have tied the knot?
is it so wrong that maybe since we used to fool around almost everyday in the past that i may be burnt out on it for a while and not want to do anything?
is it so wrong that maybe i still havent gotten over all that youve said and done to me and i dont want to be that close to you right now?
youre a damn grown man. dont get on yahoo and ask other people about our problems when we are the only ones with the answers about eachother.
really now.... think about it!
jessie
2006-10-26 08:06:27 · answer #4 · answered by jess s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both made a mistake and regret it. You both need to realize this is in the past and let it go. Put it out of your minds and move forward. If you are not able to do this, you will not have a full relationship. Good Luck!
2006-10-24 04:58:49 · answer #5 · answered by diturtlelady2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe talking to a relationships counselor or a trusted clergyman will help....maybe if you both focus on the fact that since neither of you cheated and that you both slept with other people while you were apart it will help....i remember when Kathy Lee-Gifford and Frank Gifford dealt with his cheating she made the statement that everytime they made love there was forgiveness for what he did in the love they made....maybe this kind of thinking can work for you...dont make love now to feel good...make love now as a way to find forgiveness and healing...good luck
2006-10-24 04:36:05 · answer #6 · answered by kimbersweet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well thats good you guys are in love but if you are gonna get married, you should think how this relationship will be, the best thing to do is just move on, you two are not happy together anymore, so both of you should brake up. you guys can be friends.
2006-10-24 04:43:45 · answer #7 · answered by crazygirl123 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm i think wht you need is a long vacation together. I m sure you wil eventually be able to rekindle the bedventures but u have to work towards it, right?
You could also try kamasutra, which will give you tips to get more sexperience.
2006-10-24 05:00:23 · answer #8 · answered by freshlimesoda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
however since this we cant seem to have sex with each other b/c we hate seeing each other w/ someone else..?
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i dont really get your question but if you mean that you cant have sex with each other because yah both have done it with someone else then i guess you both need to talk to each other. and work eerything out because if you guys are about to get married you guys cant have tis problem what so ever.
2006-10-24 04:36:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 08:29:14 · answer #10 · answered by benavidez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋