I have been seeing this guy, he lives long distance, his brother who he has just started talking to, is making up lies, saying that i slept with him, which i never. and now he will not speak to me, he wont let me explain that i dont no whats going on and his brother is making it up. How do i get through to him?
2006-10-24 04:24:41 · 12 answers · asked by Kimmy xx 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Write a letter explaining everything that has happened. Be factual (don't get all emotional) and let him decide whether he believes you or not. Leave it down to him to contact you to discuss it.
If he doesn't contact you then move on. He puts his brother before you and this will always be the case. A wedge has been drivwen between you and only he can remove that. Good luck.
2006-10-24 04:29:25 · answer #1 · answered by Thanks! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This just shows how little respect your boyfriend has for you. How can he make a judgement based on one side of the story and not even allow you to put your points across.
Perhaps drop him a line making it clear that you don't appreciate being considered a liar and a cheat especially by a brother who he has only just started speaking to recently. If he's so willing to believe his brother over you then so be it - it's his loss. He will one day come to realise what he's lost through his own stupidity and then it will be up to you whether you accept him back or not.
What was it that made them stop speaking anyway? Probably he did the same to his last relationship. The brother has got serious jealousy issues, I would think.
2006-10-24 11:34:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he won't let you explain, I say screw him. Just leave him one final message: "Ok, Bob. If you don't have enough respect for me to hear my side of the story and to prove your brother is lying, than you're not the guy I thought you were anyway. Have a nice life." and hang up. Consider yourself single and go find you a man who cares enough to hear what you have to say!
2006-10-24 11:27:04 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His brother is jealous of your relationship. I would move on to someone else who trusts you completely or you will be forever trying to prove yourself to this guy and you don't want to live your life like that.
2006-10-24 11:28:37 · answer #4 · answered by Urchin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably can't get thru to him, he chooses to believe his brother over you. Kick this guy out of your life, he does not deserve you. Trust is one of the most important ingredients in a lasting relationship, and he does not trust you.
2006-10-24 11:30:37 · answer #5 · answered by mimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't until he comes home. The Brother will be found out eventually, - it may be a blessing in disguise - Who wants a partner that doesnt trust them or believe them...
2006-10-24 11:29:34 · answer #6 · answered by mark leshark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry girl, that sucks. Well i will try one more time and if he still doesn't give you the time of day, move on and find someone who respects you enough to listen to what you have to say.
2006-10-24 11:38:41 · answer #7 · answered by OE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing is for you to write him a simple short letter of not more than two paragraphs.
Good luck!
2006-10-24 11:41:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that he's a waste of your time. Why would you wnat to be with someone who's family is so screwed up, forget him and move on. You should be the one he should be apologizing to, forget him, move on.
2006-10-24 11:48:09 · answer #9 · answered by Ankit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send him a card explaining how you are telling the truth and so on...
2006-10-24 11:27:55 · answer #10 · answered by Danielle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋