I haven't had any alone time in over 7yrs. I love my husband. I don't want to be single or married to someone else, I just enjoyed being by myself for a little while and I wish he was gonna be gone a few days longer.
He went with my neighbors husband and she is so excited that they are coming home (their kids are grown and moved out). She's happy, I'm not. Is this wrong?
I wasn't up to no good while he was away. I'm very faithful. I just liked it and I don't know how long it'll be before I get an opportunity like that again.
So, do you think this is abnormal or wrong?
2006-10-24 04:10:50 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks ladies. I really appreciate your understanding. I mean 7 + years without much freedom will make you feel crazy sometime.
2006-10-24 04:22:05 · update #1
Thanks to the gentlemen too.
2006-10-24 04:36:00 · update #2
No just tell him that you like quality time by yourself and he should plan more get-a-ways.
2006-10-24 04:16:58 · answer #1 · answered by Bubbles 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, he'll come home soon. He's a man and he needs his freedom sometimes, that doesn't make him a bad guy. Didn't you love him when he was free and had friends? Why would you want to take that away from him? You shouldn't be hassling his family either, that's just wrong. It makes you look weak and him look like he isn't in control of his wife like he should be. His friends will lose respect if he lets you get away with that. That could hurt his career too. You are his wife, he knows that he doesn't need you to remind him. Maybe that's why he needs so much time with his crew, maybe you don't even let him breathe when he's alone? You should make sure the house is nice and he has a good hot meal waiting at every meal whether he's there or not. Never show anger to him or disrespect. Love him in every way, but make yourself available for that not pushed on him. You probably can't be told everything, but it's for your own good. Don't worry about this. Just be a good wife and be there to love him when he comes around, and he'll come around more often.
2016-05-22 06:51:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not abnormal or anything of the sort. Like you've said, you haven't had any alone time in over seven years, and you need a break every once in a while. That just it, take breaks every once in a while, rather than waiting for your husband to go on a fishing trip. Also tell your husband how you feel. Don't keep this from him because if he sees that your not happy when he comes home, he might get upset or feel hurt.
2006-10-24 04:29:19 · answer #3 · answered by jessica b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heck no your not wrong! Stop feeling guilty if you are.
We all need our space. It's almost like getting the key to our cells. :-)
There should be more apart time for you two. Maybe you can get the other neighbors to take him hunting again next week. LOL
I just love the feel of getting to do what I want, when I want, and not having this "I have to do this and that" over my head each day before hubby comes home from work.
In other words, you got to go on a trip too, but you jsut didn't go far. Nothing wrong with you to have enjoyed yourself too!
2006-10-24 04:19:35 · answer #4 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong to want some "me" time. Why not give yourself some alone time when he's home. Just because you're married doesn't mean you have to be together 24/7 for the rest of your life. My hunband has his weekend a month to go out with his friends, and I have a weekend too. (it's usually the same one). It's good to get out and about by yourself once in a while. I also get manicures every couple of weeks too, or I'll go window shopping by myself. I don't spend any money, I just like to walk around and look and think.There's lots of things you can do by yourself. Just do it, you deserve it.
2006-10-24 04:18:18 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well not really, but what is the problem that you don't want him to come home? Is he abusive or something toward you? If it's just the two of you, Are you saying you can't get any peace? It has to be more than what you are saying! I hope that you and your husband can talk about what you want and come to some kind of agreement! We all need our space sometimes, but your case sounds a little different. Peace be with you!
2006-10-24 04:17:15 · answer #6 · answered by Child of God 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not wrong at all. I am newly married, and one of the things I do is take some time to do what I want about once or twice a month. My husband understands this need and it gives him time to do what he wants as well. We both love each other very much and would never cheat. But we know it is good to have your own space. So my advice to you is to take time to doo what you wnat as often as you need. It is really OK.
2006-10-24 04:31:03 · answer #7 · answered by Ellyn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi N. you got some great anwers from the gals. now heres one from a guy. sorry guys if I over looked your answers.
I love my wife. been married over 25 yrs. but one of the happiest times is when she goes off on some trip. I get to have alone time. to do what I want. or do nothing. I can eat what I want, watch guy flicks, buy comic books, what ever. nothing dirty, just quality me time. when she comes back I jump on her, tell her I love her and missed her, ( i really did) and to come over here.
it's great, those little get away. sometime she jumps on me and tells me to come over here. wait, that doesn't make sense, but I think you know what i mean. encourge the big guy to go on more trips. you'll both enjoy them.
best,
frankie chocolate.
2006-10-24 04:32:41 · answer #8 · answered by frankiechocolate 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it is not wrong. I have the same feelings when my wife and kids go away. Which is to few and to far between. Just let him know you missed him but that you also enjoyed your free time. And ask when he is going to do it again.
2006-10-24 04:21:36 · answer #9 · answered by Joesmoe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, not wrong at all...!!! But you do need to sit with hubby and have a heart to heart chat with him about your feelings. You need some down time just for you, no kids, no hubby, whatever you want to do time. Everyone needs this. Good luck!! And enjoy your alone time you have left!!
2006-10-24 04:19:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there's anything wrong with it - I think you appreciate your private time and yearn for it. You are very independent. Ask your husband if he can go hunting more often - tell him you like the alone time. I'm sure something can be worked out!!
2006-10-24 04:18:27 · answer #11 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋