doesnt know yet. She is still attached and thinks that we will get back together. How should i tell her, like the easiest let down? I know she is going to be hurt, but id like to remain friends with her.
2006-10-24 04:04:37 · 14 answers · asked by Irish ME 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
my new fiance doesnt mind the fact that we want to be friends, she encourages it.
2006-10-24 05:11:19 · update #1
There's no good way to do this. You should not have been giving her hope to start with. I don't see you two remaining friends through this, but you have to tell her.
2006-10-24 04:07:16 · answer #1 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take her to lunch, let her know what's going on and then set her free. Also, you might want to check with your fiancee and find out if she's comfortable with you being friends with this girl. If the ex still has feelings for you tho, you really can't expect much else except she could be hurt for a while and you can't wait around until she's fine with it. If you did that, you'd pretty much be telling the current lady that you still love the ex.
2006-10-24 04:08:18 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ah Maybe being friends with her isn't the answer... How does your new to be wife feel about your being friends. Some times you have to let go of the ex to truly move on... maybe this isn't a friendship that needs to be saved.
But my question to you ...is why is she still thinking that your going to get back together. ???? Why is she still attached... maybe you need to get your self together and figure that out before you get married..... It sounds like this.. you broke up ... and met someone new... but never really ended the old relationship... now your getting married and STILL SEEING THE OLD CHICK. and the new one... NOT COOL ...
DUDE you sound like an old boyfriend I used to have. do your self a favor ..SIT DOWN AND REALLY EVALUATE YOUR LIFE >>> .... make sure your marrying the RIGHT person for the RIGHT reasons. .... your wallet and your heart will thank you.
2006-10-24 04:19:14 · answer #3 · answered by zachs mom 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hate to be mean, but.. If you are getting hitched and still talking to the ex, who thinks you two might have a chance- that could be a bad sign your not ready for the ultimate commitment that marriage is. Who cares about the ex? You are going to have a wife, to have and to hold! Call the ex, e-mail her, tell her your getting hitched, you don't love her and dont really care. If you can't do that, you probably should re-think the marriage.
2006-10-24 04:08:38 · answer #4 · answered by Fran Y 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should def. let your ex know you are getting married just tell her you enjoyed your times together but you have found someone that truly makes you happy and you can only hope that she will find someone as well. Tell her you would like to remain friends but you can understand if she doens't want to be.
2006-10-24 04:15:07 · answer #5 · answered by Arual 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her the truth you have met someone else and are getting married she may be hurt she may surpise you and not be hurt .Then she can chose to remain friends or not if no children are involed personally I would concentrate on my new wife and stay away from my old one .
2006-10-24 04:14:54 · answer #6 · answered by john h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better examine yourself, have you given her mixed messages? To be fair to your bride, you better tell your ex in very clear terms that you have moved on and you hope she will too.
Make sure you explain that you love the woman you are going to marry and that you are sorry if she is hurt, but that you will work to make your marriage a success. and that you can not make time for her in the future, you will be to busy. Then change your cell phone number, if you are serious about your new marriage.Wishing you a successful marriage.
2006-10-24 04:13:46 · answer #7 · answered by mimi 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to tell her. But since she still has feelings for you, being friends with her is not a good idea at this point. Give her time to get over it.
2006-10-24 04:08:30 · answer #8 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for starters u ain't with her anymore..and if you are getting married you two have been spilt for a hile that's for sure...she knows that you are with someone else and it is time for her to move on...
but just be honest and straight forward with her...tell her that you just want to be friends and its' going to remain like that case you are in love with this other woman..and u want to be with her forever and that you are soul mates and all that good stuff..if yourlex loves you like you think she does she will understand and lett you go..if not she's obscenst with you and a restraining order might be in your future..lol
2006-10-24 04:08:15 · answer #9 · answered by Newfie_Girl_13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are getting married to someone else, why do you feel the need to inform your ex? If I was your fiance, I would be upset that you are spending time worrying about her feelings.
2006-10-24 04:07:23 · answer #10 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋