im also asking for a husbands/partners point of view as my husband psychologically is not willing to risk what we went through with the miscarriage again,im told that physically the body can be ready after having the first period post-miscarriage
that is when i would like to try,my husband isstill traumatised by watching me physically suffer though-should i just wait and see if he comes round?
2006-10-24 04:02:07 · 17 answers · asked by tigerfoot 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
after my m/c 3 months ago my doctor told me that as long as we are both mentally ready we could try again any time.. can I suggest www.pamsupport.org it is a pregnancy after miscarriage site and is filled by men and women going though the same thing .. It helped my husband and I with all our questions .. we both thought we were ready straight after but I'm glad now I didn't get pregnant as last month I had a very severe stress related illness. and now we both feel we are ready and are very excited.. make sure you are both happy about trying again. our doctor helped a great deal and sat with us for 1/2 hour discussing why we weren't to blame and the chances of it happening again we didn't feel rushed at all.
If he has concerns he is best to ask loads of questions and I'm sure he will be okay and will out weigh the risk with the willingness to hold his little baby... I am very sorry for your lost and I wish you the best in the future. I'm sure you will fall pregnant again soon.
2006-10-24 04:16:53 · answer #1 · answered by mum 2 Cameron and Ewan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for at least 8 weeks as this will ensure that all things within your body are healed properly. Set a date for the end of abstinence. Then make love with your husband without the pressure of wanting to become pregnant. He will respond better in this way and you will become even closer for it.
Miscarriages happen more often than most people imagine and it is the bodies response when things are not quite right.
Best of luck and have a happy life with the family when it arrives.
2006-10-24 04:08:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how far along you were.....the earlier it happened the better.
I have heard at least 3 months because the risk of Post Partum Depression is great if you go too soon (i've had friends go through this and this is what may have caused Brooke Shields issues)
I have heard 6 months for later losses.
I think you need to consider your husband's feelings...while he didn't feel the pain, he lost a child too. Talk openly with him about his feelings and his fears.
I have several friends who had miscarriages and went on to have happy and healthy pregnancies.
Good luck!
2006-10-24 04:08:56 · answer #3 · answered by jm1970 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your information is correct about physically needing to wait one menstrual cycle. However, if your husband isn't ready, don't rush it. He may still need time to grieve, or he may just be scared for you.
I had taken fertility meds to conceive and when I miscarried, my husband was convinced it was because of the drugs, so I didn't take them that month to put his mind at ease. When we didn't conceive, I took all of his questions to my OB and we started the fertility meds again.
I would talk with your husband and let him know that you are ready to try again, but if he isn't then you can wait a little longer. If he knows you are ready to try, then he may come around.
I'm sorry for your loss. Best wishes.
2006-10-24 04:18:13 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The suggested time is 3 months. I personally waited 3 weeks after my first miscarriage and had i successfully pregnancy but went threw HELL trying to make sure everything was fine.. I had another miscarriage 4 months ago and this time waited the 3 months that they told me to and everything is going great to take time before you try you don't want to go threw all the problems that I had to
My heart goes out to you!!
2006-10-24 04:08:17 · answer #5 · answered by momof2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been through this and I have been told to wait 3 months before trying again to allow your body to get back to normal.
From the male perspective - it cut up my husband - and was quite a hard decision for us to try again - and I knew it wouldnt feel right until we both felt ready.
Take it slow and communicate with each other - you'll know when the time is right,
Good Luck and God bless
2006-10-24 04:05:01 · answer #6 · answered by schmushe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After a normal period you can try again. You and your husband will need to work this out. It sounds like he might be having second thoughts about the whole thing. What's his reaction going to be when you are in labor?
2006-10-24 04:06:35 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Strain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recently had a miscarriage and was advised to wait 3 months before trying to conceive again.
2006-10-24 06:00:01 · answer #8 · answered by ♥DQ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is frustrating to flow via and that i'm sorry on your loss. I even have had 2 miscarriages interior the previous. the two cases my scientific expert instructed me to attend 2 cycles additionally. Your physique desires time to heal formerly you even though it for the period of the stress of being pregnant back. I even have some scientific issues that brought about me to have my miscarriages, even though it is quite customary for females to have miscarriages in early being pregnant. provide your physique time to heal and attempt back. i'm 32 weeks pregnant now. solid luck
2016-10-02 21:56:14 · answer #9 · answered by kuhlmann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a miscarriage 3 and half years ago and the following month i fell pregnant again. All was ok.
2006-10-24 04:23:55 · answer #10 · answered by stephy_2004uk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋