i just got married and i am having a real hard time with just everything. I have never lived by myself nor have i ever had to pay for bills like i am now i just feel very overwhelmed!!! is this normal??
2006-10-24 03:57:35 · 14 answers · asked by what 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's normal. I felt that way too. I had lived with my parents until I got married, and everything just hit at once. Getting used to bills, getting used to each other, and getting used to being out on your own is really different! The first few months will be an adjusting period, and it will probably get a little rocky, but it's worth it! After awhile, you two will learn to live your lives with each other and incorporate what you did when you were single into your married lives. It'll get better! Just take one problem at a time and don't overly stress about it, it doesn't help. You have a spouse you can lean on, that's what they're there for. Just enjoy each other, and it will get better! I promise!
2006-10-24 04:06:10 · answer #1 · answered by CF 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The common term for what you are going through is called separation anxiety. The fact that you have never lived by yourself, had to keep a home, pay bills and all the other changes that you have to deal with all the sudden can seem overwhelming to be sure. Don't stress it too bad, it is normal and many people have the same fears and stresses when they move out for the first time.
I recommend that you get your a calendar that your can write on. If you pay a bill on the 5th, write that on there and you will soon start to see that certain things all happen around the same time every month and get a system down. Just like most things in life, the more you do it, the easier it will become for you. You will be fine, hang in there and you will do just great.
2006-10-24 11:20:31 · answer #2 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be quite a change and especially if you never really lived on your own before you moved in with your man. Don't feel overwhelmed, you will catch up to it all. It is quite an exciting time for you. This is a learning curve for you... soak it up. Man, life is fun and this is all part of it. Hopefully you have a good man there for some support. I can only imagine that it is a crazy time for you. You're going to be great, just give it time. Sometimes life makes you feel like you go from zero to 60 mph in a second. It will all work out fine. One day you will be listening to your kids tell you how hard life is when they move out and by going through this is how you get the life experience to help them through it. Good Luck!
2006-10-24 11:13:23 · answer #3 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes very normal.. its called growing up.. and unfortunately u seem ur having to do it at a faster rate.. since u said u've never lived on ur own before prior to marriage, so yes its very normal to seem over whelmed..
Between being seperated from your family home, having to be a partner now, instead of doing only for yourself.. and bills and responsibilities.. ect..
But extremely normal.. but usually most people these days seem to live on their own prior to marriage.. so they atleast have the chance to adapt to paying bills, ect prior to marriage..
2006-10-24 11:17:30 · answer #4 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Roxy, i can relate, i got married about 8 months ago and i too was never lived by myself or had to pay bills.
I think it is tough in the begining but it teaches you to stand on your own 2 feet and yes it does get better!
2006-10-24 11:14:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be fine honey, it will just take time, unfortunately. Now you know what to tell your own kids when they get to the marrying age...... have them move into their own apt when they are financially able to and mentally ready, and let them experience life on their own, so they can be ready when the special man or woman comes into their lives.... Good luck and hang in there!!!
2006-10-24 11:17:17 · answer #6 · answered by daj11551 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very normal to feel that way, you will soon get into the groove of this and all will settle down. Just be patience and take some deep breaths.
2006-10-24 11:28:34 · answer #7 · answered by Sexy-n-Hot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being married is really freakin' hard. They should make us start taking marriage classes in 1st grade. Nobody ever tells you what to really expect. Life's a turd and then you die.
2006-10-24 11:16:40 · answer #8 · answered by Nobody Special 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long did you date this man before you married him? You sound really young too, but I don't know what to say since you don't have much information about this.
2006-10-24 11:00:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, that's normal. Marriage is a real adjustment, but with time and patience, you'll be fine. Don't forget to breath.
2006-10-24 11:03:20 · answer #10 · answered by T W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋