He is very controlling and I am not prepared to continue with the relationship.
2006-10-24 03:47:14 · 24 answers · asked by pagan c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you're all prepared, then go see the councellor and prove to him that you are not under depression and is really wanting to leave him.
But make sure he foots the councelling charges. After all, he is the one who wants you to go.
Good luck to your new life!
2006-10-24 03:50:41 · answer #1 · answered by Geo C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this: Now you are free and single again, are you happy? Forget the gray area, it's either yes or no. If its yes, why the hell would you need to see a councellor? The point is you don't. This is his last pathetic attempt to keep hold of you. The problem with control freaks is they can't let go... even when you've moved on. If that's the reason you're not prepared to go on with the relationship you made the right choice, and for the right reason. If he persists you must make it clear that his concern for your wellbeing is no longer his problem.
Explain that you are happy as you are and he was the one who was making you depressed.
You're better off without him and his grip on you. Good luck with the future and enjoy your freedom.
2006-10-24 03:57:30 · answer #2 · answered by James M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's difficult to know what to advise for the best as you do not give enough information, I'm afraid.
Maybe he's right and you do feel low. Seeing a counsellor could be a good move in any case as if he is right and you are depressed it will help and if he's not right, it will help you to see more clearly whether this relationship is right for you or whether he really is as controlling as you feel. You might like then to move onto marriage guidance counselling to see if the relationship can be salvaged. You can go to that on your own but it's obviously better to go together. Maybe if he could see a counsellor too then he may realise what he is doing wrong. If he says he won't go, then why is he insisting that you go yourself?
2006-10-24 03:53:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A controlling partner is in my opinion one of the leading causes of depression , however depression can cause us to feel we are being controlled ?
See a councillor alone as it might do you the world of good either way and even if it doesn't what have you lost ?
2006-10-24 03:53:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now it wont hurt you to see a councilor, it will only make you better if you go, also you can see, where some of your faults lye, being depressed is a dark pit, it wont hurt you to seek a little help, you don't have to get back with this boyfriend, but you breaking up might be a blessing in disguise
2006-10-24 03:51:21 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do what is right for you. If you want to stay split then that is your choice and you do not have to be forced into anything. If you feel counselling would benefit you then it may be successful. If you've recognised that he is controlling then you can be aware of how he may try to manipulate you so that is good that you've recognised that. Talk to your friends about it. Don't be afraid to be you.
2006-10-24 04:23:43 · answer #6 · answered by Christian S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are u depressed if so go see a doctor and he/she will put u on anti-depressants and dont bother with the man thats controlling you find someone better that will not control you ok - good luck
2006-10-24 04:59:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have split from him then he has no right to tell you what to do, just move on with your life look after yourself and i am sure you will be ok, he obviously still wants to control you by telling you how you are feeling and what you should do, don't listen to him good luck
2006-10-24 03:50:45 · answer #8 · answered by bluebell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think you need to see a councler? I think its time you get on with your life without him. You need to control your own destiny! There are so many other men out there. You deserve to be happy!
2006-10-24 03:53:01 · answer #9 · answered by KIM A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him straight out that seeing as ye are now no longer together you couldnt care a less what he thinks you should or shouldnt do - or who you should or shouldnt see. Tell him to take a hike hun - sooner you get him permanently out of your life the better! xx
2006-10-24 04:05:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋