My wife and I moved to a state where we have no family or friends. We moved into a really nice neighborhood, but the majority of the people there are in thier 40s. We are both in our mid 20s with no kids. We don't drink and don't really like going to clubs (yes we are sort of lame). We have been trying to connect with people but all we get is soft commitments from people to do things that never turn out to be anything. We are sick of dealing with the non serious people. Where could we go or what could we do to get some reliable friends? I need you serious advice!
2006-10-24 03:33:51 · 6 answers · asked by Paka 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You and your wife could check out what's going on in your community and get involved there. This will help you get to know your neighbors better through a mutual activity. Another thing to do is volunteer within the community. Not only does this help your neighborhood, but you can make friends in that way as well.
Also, you could find a local church that you like and you will definitely make friends there.
Once you've established yourself with people, you can invite them over for small get-togethers - BBQ, card games, etc.
BTW, just because you don't drink does not mean you are lame. My husband and I do not drink either and we're still very social. :) You and your wife will be too - just give it some time. Some people do not readily commit, hence the "soft" commitments. If you really like the people you've invited already, give it some time and invite them again.
2006-10-24 03:57:31 · answer #1 · answered by terryoulboub 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Join a church group. I made alot of honest , true friends.
Try a Pentecostal church... I say that, cause I see more people being 'true' and friendly, more so then any other religion. People seem more free to be themselves.
That's the best Advice I think you will receive on here.
2006-10-24 10:38:09 · answer #2 · answered by Jas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok if your religous try going to a sunday school and get all the people in your class to do something onthe weekends. Try going to coffee shops and just hangin out or get involved in something like a community service or with the local school. i dont really know what to tell you since i dont know your area but there are tons of things you can do that will make you friends. you just have to get involved.
2006-10-24 10:37:50 · answer #3 · answered by rooney8dabom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I moved I started going to church. I made a lot of friends that way.
2006-10-24 10:51:20 · answer #4 · answered by i_wanna_know 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were you i would join some type of softbal league/poker league/raquetball league. most people meet their friends at work. nobody there? what are your interests? do u play any sports? find a league. most people go out after games to celebrate or just to go out. good luck on your search
2006-10-24 10:37:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a bbq or a halloween party at your house and invete the whole block over and go from there i wouldnt do it im quite misanthropic but if you need human contact do what i suggest
2006-10-24 10:36:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋