What's so bad about gays adopting children?

Question

There are millions of kids out there who desperately need good homes. If a same-sex couple is willing and able to provide a good, stable environment for a child who needs it, what's so bad about that?

Answer 1

Nothing. As with any adoption, it comes down to the character of the person/people applying for adoption and how well they can actually care for the child.

Answer 2

Ultimately, a mother and a father are the best environment for a child. That being said, I am NOT opposed to gay couples adopting children. I do believe that is a better alternative to the state raising the children in institutions. I think the key phrase of the question is "good, stable environment". That is the most important element for a child.

Answer 3

In an ideal world children are raised by a man and a woman. That way they can learn about masculine and feminine, men and woman. They will have a balanced view of relationships and human beings.

I have nothing against gays raising children; it is just that there are just some realities about that situation that at very least need to be acknowledged and dealt with.

You are right that there are millions of unwanted, abused and neglected children and so anytime children can be in a home where they are loved and they have stability it would be better gay or straight.

Answer 4

The emphasis should be on what a normal environment is and not so much for equality of who can adopt. To be raised in a gay environment can be very confusing to the child and may cause problems later on when going to school among peers who mostly have heterosexual parents. There is no precedent but the normal way of rearing a child in a loving and caring is seen to be better suited for those not of the same sex

Answer 5

Except that there is no such thing as gay adoption any where in the united states .
It is called single parent adoption and occurs with some frequency anymore .
What gay people want is the ability to go to court and fight over the kids as a way of punishing the former partner they once loved .
They want the same rights married people have to drag each other thru the courts .
People have battled over dog custody and visitation .
I am a liberal at heart ,but i find it most distresing that people unable to keep a simple commitment to one another should have any rights to continue to raise a child .
They due and use the child to gain information on the other spouses life and who they might be seeing .Its like the reality tv craze that is going on .Everyon wants to know what everyone else is doing .Husbands and wifes who are divorced want to know if the other one is seeing someone and how often and the kids are the recording devices .replayed over and over as the shuffle from parent to parent .
The life style of homo sexuals tends to be one of many changes in partners till they are older .So maybe if a couple of 50 year old homosexual couples want to adopt ok but twenty year olds will more then likely have 4 more partners before they are 35 so this makes for a bad enviroment that is unstable at best .
So making gay marriages and adoptions normal will only tend to create many more problems then it solves .
Adoption should be in the hands of responcible people and those intent on adopting should meet certian scrutiny by these people .It should not become a fad for people to adopt if nature did not intend for them to reproduce .
NATURE DID NOT INTEND FOR THEM TO REPRODUCE .So why should our system of adoption enable them to do so .
Let them work under the supervision of the state if they want .

Answer 6

as you said....there are many kids that need good homes, why not give them one....THey are not going turn gay, why not give them a chace at a good life....I think the only bad side would be the ridicule the child might take for have homosexual parents....but I think its getting better.....more and more people are starting to realize that even though you don't agree with it does not mean they are bad people.....I don't think its right...but that does not mean I hate them....most of them are still good people just trying to get by like everyone else....I say if they can provide a good home for a child who needs one then go for it....

Answer 7

Nothing. What could be better for a child than a stable happy home where they grow up feeling loved and nurtured? The ultimate home is a home with a male and female role model (IMHO) but lets face it--many 'normal' homes don't offer their children that. What a lucky child it is who has two people who love him/her unconditionally.

Answer 8

Absolutely nothing.

Parenting ability has zip to do with sexual orientation. As a previous poster said I know gay and straight parents, some are quite good some struggle.

I find it ironic that some of the answerers "know" that a child brought up in a house with homosexual parents would suffer. Where's the evidence for that? Surely your basing this conclusion on some concrete evidence? No?

If so, please edit your reply to include it!

Answer 9

It's not really an issue of them "turning gay". It's the issue that there will not be the correct balance there of a mother and father in the development of the child. There's a proven study showing how a much larger percentage of people end up in prison or with other issues due to only having one parent or the other around during their childhood. It would be no different if there were two parents of the same sex around.

Answer 10

Nothing some ignorant people believe that alternate family structures affect children but surely 2 loving parents are better than none. There is also a strong ridiculous belief that these family structures encourage homosexuality amongst the children. They can't grasp that homosexual children can come from hetrosexual households and straight children can come from homosexual households.