long story short! LOL- I am in love with a great guy! we have been together for over a year. we took a break a couple months ago to get our stuff together (college, life etc) well while we seperated, this guy who i know from work really started pressuring me to get with him. but i didnt. He has told me he loved numerous time. He even knows that me and my man are back together. he still insist on talking (which is cool, you can never have too many friends right (he is also friends w. my roomates so were all tryin to be adults here) Anyways. last week was my 20th b-day and i didnt expect a gift from him, well he called and asked what kind of jewelery i like, then white or yellow gold.. i told him he didnt have to but he insisted. Then here lately he has been talking about buying a corvette and getting rid of his RS Camero. He wants to GIVE it to me. (cause my car is a POS & I do need a new one) Weird part..my man said to take it, he said i could sell it. what should i do? IM SO CONFUSED
2006-10-24 03:26:09 · 20 answers · asked by gracin_angel 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
thing is..he is insisting that i take the car. that he is looking out for my well being.. he even told me to sell it and get something i like or could affor the insurance for...
2006-10-24 03:30:50 · update #1
Don't accept any gifts from him because he is doing it out of feelings for you. If you accept it, that will give him false hope, something you don't want to do. You need to sit him down and seriously tell him that you are with someone and are only interested in his friendship. If he doesn't act accordingly, then you will have to cut ties with him. Harsh, I know, but it will only make matters worse if you don't nip it now.
2006-10-24 03:29:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just based on what you've told me, you shouldn't take the car. That's way too much of a gift to say 'well here it's yours'. Even when they say no strings attached, there are usually some invisible strings somewhere. Your boyfriend is wrong for telling you to take it, would you do the same for him if the case were different? He'd be angry with you if you took the car and then decided to keep it and fix it up, he'd say that there was soemthing else going on and if there wasn't, why would you take the car much less keep it. Save yourself the drama. We as women want a man to do things like that for us but we forget that everything comes with a price, what price are you willing to pay for that 'gift'? Think about it and let me know the outcome.
2006-10-24 03:34:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't take it, no matter what your partner said. This other man might see it as you accepting him in one way or another and may even hold it against you in the future, you just do't know what would happen.
Besides, taking something like that off of someone, no matter how insistant he is, seems a little shallow, don't you think?
2006-10-24 03:29:56 · answer #3 · answered by *Care Bear* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should take the car. It's not an appropriate gift since you know the man has feelings for you that you do not return. It's not fair to him because accepting gives him hope.
2006-10-24 03:29:43 · answer #4 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you need to have a talk with this guy and make him understand that you are with your boyfriend and you love him and that by giving you gifts it is not going to change the way you feel you enjoy having him as a friend and would continue to love having him as a friend that he needs to understand that if he gives you that car its out of friendship and not any thing more and if he agrees then take it and do what ever with it as long as he knows that "one less heart broken "
2006-10-24 04:13:56 · answer #5 · answered by mari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as sweet as that deal sounds... no, don't take it.. Unless you REALLY need some financial help or something. This guy sounds like he likes you a lot... but if you keep taking his gifts you'll just end up hurting his feelings even more in the end.
2006-10-24 03:30:18 · answer #6 · answered by krunkee1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lady never accepts a gift from a man she is not in a serious relationship with. There are always strings attached. This man is trying to buy you. Tell him to leave you alone or you will have to speak to your supervisor about him.
2006-10-24 03:29:24 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you...I wouldn't take it. As bad as you may want it and it may help you.......gifts are not always free....meaning he may and probably will want something in return. This is his way of getting closer to you. Your so called boyfriend should realize that too. If he is your boyfriend, why doesn't he help you with a newer car???
2006-10-24 03:36:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes trying to buy your love and woo you away from your BF. I would not accept the car he expects something in return and this would make you a user not good.
2006-10-24 03:31:05 · answer #9 · answered by cin_ann_43 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should accpect the gift, just because your man said you can take it, You should just take it, but at the same time. He probably going to think that he got you because he gave you a car. All i have to said is be careful
2006-10-24 03:29:17 · answer #10 · answered by Pumpkin Nickel Bread 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋