i don't know if it is me or him..i really can't get to climax or orgasm whenever my boyfriend and i make love...i don't know why..and another thing is,it somehow annoys me because my man has a bit of a problem having his erection..he tends to lose it after sometime then its back again and loses it again..but then,he gets to climax..any useful suggestions? you can email me for a full detailed answer .thanks!
2006-10-24 03:26:03 · 5 answers · asked by peek-a-boo 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
so,if it was me who has it,are there any ways that you can suggest so i can reach orgasm?
2006-10-24 03:38:11 · update #1
The problem is not you; most women cannot attain orgasm through vaginal intercourse, so if this is how you're attempting to have an orgasm (by itself) you're going to have some problems. What you may want to do is try getting excited before intercourse (masturbation or oral sex) and then move on to intercourse. Alternately, you can masturbate yourself during intercourse; clitoral stimulation is a near-guarantee for orgasm for women.
You can use the same technique for your BF. Get him excited with either manual or oral stimulation and then move on to intercourse. Some guys sometimes have some difficulty holding onto an erection when it takes a while for orgasm to come along for one or both of you. Also, if he's thinking you're not enjoying yourself, he's going to lose some of his excitement as well. Sex is as mental as it is physical.
You could also find a couple books that might be helpful. I'd recommend "Sex & Loving" and "The Sensual Massage." There are also a number of them on oral sex techniques; get a little risque and see what happens!
You might also invest in a high-quality massager, one that can be stimulating to both of you. Try the sites below for descreet purchases of fun toys and accessories. Don't be afraid to experiment!
2006-10-24 04:00:10 · answer #1 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if my answer is helpful but I want to try anyway. May be he loses it when you stop the foreplay or when your foreplay is not very interesting to him. It is not unusual for women not to reach orgasm. It takes a lot more for women than men to reach climax. You should really get creative and if you do some self-analysis you'll find that some particular sex-making ways or romantic gestures turn you on. Although you cannot get to make your partner do ot every time, there is nothing in wrong in fantasising when you are in bed. Don't feel guilty about it. Try some new things. You can find a lot of good and decent books with these topics.
2006-10-24 10:35:20 · answer #2 · answered by Pearl J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
chill, don't worry. try some sex toys, watch a p*orn movie. talk together to have a fantasy. you don't have to climax at the same time. you an do it later
2006-10-24 10:42:21 · answer #3 · answered by kissmadme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like it's you with the problem. It isn't his responsibility to give you an orgasm, it is your responsibility to attain one. If you can't you need to find out why you can't. He keeps trying and he obtains his, so the problem obviously doesn't rest with him.
2006-10-24 10:30:25 · answer #4 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't need suggestions for an orgasm, you need a man that can function, and satisfy.Any man that can't take care of your business first, needs to apply himself.Why get all meesy and get nothing out of it?GUIDE HIM WHERE HE NEEDS TO BE!
2006-10-24 12:24:24 · answer #5 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋