my sister in law told everyone she is pregnant! she is only 2 days late from getting her period. and has told everyone when she hasn't even confirmed it by the doctor. i on the other hand am 6 weeks pregnant and havent told anyone apart from my husband. we were waiting to i was at least 8 - 12 weeks before we told anyone. now i feel like an idiot. should i have said something straight away when she announced it to me that she was pregnant? how is going to look now when i tell people! what do i do? do i tell people ASAP or just wait a bit longer. i am further along than her. the way she told me she was pregnant was by saying to me; so are you pregnant yet? i said no, and then she goes i am! everytime she would see me she ask me if i was pregnant yet and i tell her that i wasn't trying. cause i knew that if i told her we were trying that she would. i do however recall telling her last year that i would like to have another late this year. what should i do now?
2006-10-24 03:22:59 · 12 answers · asked by angel 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i think your sister in law has quite a competitive streak. I think you should tell people in your own time, don't let someone pressure you into doing it before you're ready. your sister in law may very well not be pregnant, you can have cycle fluctuations at any time and 2 days is certainly too early to be announcing it to people.
2006-10-24 03:29:13 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not let your sister-in-law get to you, it sounds like she needs to be talk with. But anyway you wait until you feel it is right to tell everyone and if she wants to throw it up in your face, just smile and don't say anything because it would be stupid for her to walk around a clam she has a baby on the way and she is not 100% sure. Its not a battle between who gets pregnant first, I know she is turning it that way but you don't fall for that and enjoy knowing your caring life inside you and that you and your husband will be parents again. Good luck, hopefully your sister-in-law will stop what she is doing and be happy for you.
2006-10-24 10:34:39 · answer #2 · answered by msleya2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG I am so with you. . .my sister in law is the same way!!
Here's what I think you should do. When you tell everyone you are pregnant, tell them how far along you are and say that you wanted to wait until you saw the dr, or you didn't know for sure until X week. . .. or you wanted to wait until you heard the heartbeat. OR you wanted to wait till the first trimester was over (depending on how far along you are now.) Either way, you are still ahead of her, and I think it shows. . .I dont know, maturity? Something. .. to wait and be sure. I think you should be confidant and calm. You are further along, you are mature, you are not jumping around telling everyone you're pregnant as the pink line is still appearing. . .
CONGRATS, BY THE WAY!!!!!!
2006-10-24 10:34:32 · answer #3 · answered by misskenjr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is quite common for people to wait until 8-12 weeks. Tell in your own time and if anyone questions you about it, just be honest and tell them you wanted to wait and make sure things were progressing normally. I would not tell right now because your sister-in-law will just think you are trying to upstage her. Don't let your sister-in-law get to you, just live your own life and don't worry about her!
2006-10-24 10:36:19 · answer #4 · answered by Softball Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your choice when you tell someone. Some people will wait untill they are 8-12 weeks, along. It is perfectly fine if you want to wait. They will understand, just tell her that you didn't want to tell anyone because you wanted to get past the most critical part first.
2006-10-24 10:30:23 · answer #5 · answered by Hilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just wait til your ready its not as if she can get jelous cause you are were obviously pregnant before her maybe you could tell your mum but the rest of the world can wait til your past the 12 week period ! do what you feels best sweety and just ign ore your sister xx
2006-10-24 10:32:06 · answer #6 · answered by mummy of 2 boys and a princess x 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and wait like you had planned...let everyone get her issue, real or not, out of the way. Then, let every one know when you want them to...then tell them how far along you are so they don't think you're piggy backing on your sinlaw.
Congratulations!
2006-10-24 10:28:13 · answer #7 · answered by Laura R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously the truth will come out when your baby comes 6 weeks before hers. And if it makes you feel better just say you didn't know you were at the time. Congratulations!!!
2006-10-24 10:35:47 · answer #8 · answered by Angie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your plan. Anything could happen, so it's just being responsible to wait until things are a bit more sure.
Your sister is not responsible and you do not want to follow her example.
2006-10-24 10:31:10 · answer #9 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST WAITE A LIL LONGER AND MAKE SURE YOU ANNOUNCE IT WHEN SHES AROUND. WHEN THE QUESTION IS ASKED WHEN YOUR DUE THEN SHES GONNA LOOK STUPID. GOODLUCK WITH THE BABY
2006-10-24 10:28:50 · answer #10 · answered by CHARM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋