2006-10-24 03:18:27 · 13 answers · asked by kelliejo0875 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my husband and I knew that we would be together and started talking about it about 4 weeks in our relationship and got married about 9 months into our relationship and also have a 19 month old daughter...we been married for 2 years(yesterday was our anniversary)
2006-10-24 03:23:44 · answer #1 · answered by sjeboyce 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
long enough to know it really is true, everlasting love and not just some wild sexual attraction or an infatuation. I know that isn't a finite time frame but we are talkign love here not milking cows so there is no way to say 5 minutes or 5 years or anything in between.
Personally I have known people to fall deeply and madly in love in under a day while another friend took a bit over 6 years. Thing is, if you really want a marriage to last a lifetime, and you are under 30, you have plenty of time to find the right person, build a terrific relationship and be sure you absolutely love, respect, and care for and about each other. Then pop the question. What young people seem to miss is the fact that a lifetime marriage will last for 40 to 70 years given the life expectancy of people under 30, so what's the big rush to marry the first person you think you love?
2006-10-24 03:27:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tons of marriages end in divorce if they are shot gun or otherwise. I was engaged three weeks after meeting my Wife. I joined the army, I went to Korea for a year Iraq for a year and our marriage lasted while we saw our friends marriages, of many years, crumble under the pressure. I don't think that there is any mold for how long you think about it. The fact is either you love the person or you don't. You make the marriage work or you don't. They say people change in cycles, every 7 years or so. When they are going through these phases of change is where I would see the problem of divorce. If you want to think about marriage go ahead, it doesn't mean the other person in the relationship needs to be thinking it at the same time. The best thing about thoughts is they can stay in your head or be shouted from the roof tops. Don't listen to people who have a time frame, they live through their brains not their hearts. You can plan and scheme about how a person is or could be right for you, but if you don't use your heart in the decision of marriage that is the marriage that will fail. My wife and I have been together for almost six years now, and it will continue to be strong.
2006-10-24 03:31:36 · answer #3 · answered by Ross B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 - 3 years if you are very young, or if you have children involved. Otherwise, until you know each other well enough. Usually a year or more, though. If it's been longer than 3 years, one person isn't really into the other enough to make a commitment and you should move on.
2006-10-24 03:21:46 · answer #4 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your situation.
Marriage is serious, and something to not be taken lightly. I know, I did it for the wrong reason the 1st time around.
You should always be thinking about if you would marry a person if you are sleeping with them. If not, why are you sleeping with them? As long as you can admit it's just for sex....go for it. If it's not just for sex, you need to always be thinking about if you would eventually marry that person.
2006-10-24 03:23:40 · answer #5 · answered by nottashygirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's been my experience that you pretty much know if a marriage is likely after a few dates. Either that kind of commitment and trust and compatability are there or not. When there's no doubt but that you fit together well, that's when you know.
2006-10-24 04:16:00 · answer #6 · answered by Dovie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your age,if you are 21 and over 1 to 2 years,if you are a teenager 3 to 5 years.i know what I'm talking about.i got married when i was 16
2006-10-24 03:27:50 · answer #7 · answered by staggerlee1944 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date 2 yrs (Jan 2006-Jan2008)
Engaged 1 yr (Feb 2008 - Feb 2009)
Marry within 6 months (Mar 2009-Jul 2009)
2006-10-24 03:41:04 · answer #8 · answered by Bubbles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 mins
2006-10-24 03:20:42 · answer #9 · answered by sensa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if ur old enough and u both love each other and cant think of living alone without the one u love and ready for the responsibilities of huving a family.. then go for it..
2006-10-24 03:42:17 · answer #10 · answered by kenshi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋